This guy and I broke up just two weeks before our one year aniverssary. In the last year, we have broke up over a dozen times. After each fight, he promise that he would change and be a better person. That always works for the first 3 days, then we go back to fighting. He can be such a sweet heart when things are good, at the same time he can be very verbal and emotionally abusive. He is a very giving person, but he always ask for all of his stuff back when we have a fight. Our last fight was really humiliating. He let out everything that I have ever told him out in the open. I've been trying to do what everyone says to do. I try to hang out with friends so that I won't spend all my time thinking about the break up. The problem is i am all the way in Iraq, so my options are very limited. Now how do I get over the break-up and learn to trust someone else? I told that guy my entire life, and he betrayed me. Please help!!
2007-02-24 14:37:49 · 8 answers · asked by Broken Hearted 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know it is extremely difficult and every attempt made to channel out anger fails miserably. The main thing to do is analyze everything that happened between you and that man. Look at everything. Make a list of the greatest and no so great constants that took place in your relationship. In order that you may see the clear picture of what happen between you. Nothing will help. Every when you choose to forget on some wonderful excursion, the past will be there lingering in your thoughts. The only thing which will make it easier is TIME. But the one thing you need to do is see if what you had with him was worth your suffering.
But please I beg of you do not stop your life from progression. That is the worst thing you could do to yourself. Some day you will wake up and your life will pass before your vary eyes. You will not even know how you got there. So regardless of all those distilling emotions continue on your straight path and disregard all those past experiences. Stay focused on the well being of your future and choose a life long ambition. Focus all your attention. Pick something that will make your honored once you reach an elderly state.
I too suffered a terrible break up. Then one day found myself not knowing what to do next. It still pains me to this vary day. But the one thing I would have changed was channeling these pains into something productive.
You will be surprised! You may feel like the world is going to end. But you know what sweetie; life will continue to flow through every pore on this earth. You can make one of two decisions:
1 Stay a vegetable for eternity
Or
2 Continue your life and build yourself up.
Eventually things will fall in place and of course there will be many fall ahead in your path. But do not let these side paths stray you away from your life. Conquer everything that makes you smile and take delight in everything you choose to do.
Warm Regards
2007-02-24 15:17:38 · answer #1 · answered by gutten abend 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-06 04:46:26 · answer #2 · answered by Austin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first thing...why is this a horrible breakup! this is a really good break up! this guy does not deserve you! read what you have described him as! you are sooooooo much better without him! you should be happy and move on with your life because it has changed for the better. do not take him back ever again no matter what he says or does because he cant keep having more chances! completely forget about this guy and just let him out of your life! trusting other people will be hard for a while but remember not everyone is like this guy! time will help you trust people again. just make sure that people deserve your trust before giving it to them but. God bless you.
2007-02-28 08:29:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand you completely, I was once involved in an abusive relationship and only after I realized that I deserved better and that I did not need a man to feel loved and appreciated, I started to really enjoy being with myself, and attracted positive people. I think you should ask God to help you out in this (it really helped me) and surround yourself by friends who can give you good advice, start a new hobbie, meet new people, get out and change your phone number, sim card, so he cannot contact you, just be firm... I know it is hard, you will have hard times when you just feel like crying but whatever you do DONT CONTACT HIM. I anticipate you will meet your perfect match after you have healed your heart.. and the best person to help you achieve this is God.
2007-02-24 14:51:57 · answer #4 · answered by Melanita 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hun, let him go if he's humiliating now he'll get worst he needs to grow up. Your broken heart will mend. Yes, they are all sweethearts when everything is going good. You deserve much better... Keep smiling. Good luck in Iraq come home safely we are praying for all our troops
2007-02-24 14:47:23 · answer #5 · answered by RC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
eat a ton of chocolate and ice cream!
2007-02-24 14:41:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ben and jerrys ice cream stock up on it
2007-02-24 14:44:08 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOTS OF BOOZE AND ONE NIGHT STANDS
2007-02-24 14:40:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋