Before I was engaged and since my husband has died I like to see two men at the same time and I mean see in the bedroom. I am in my 50's now. Do you think it is wrong? Why or why not?
2007-02-24 14:29:39 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
One knows about the other and the other doesn't. I do not date them at the same time, meaning no threesomes.
2007-02-25 08:09:11 · update #1
No, it's not wrong if you haven't made a committed to one or the other of them. And are practicing safe sex. You're a free person (male or female) and can choose how to conduct yourself, even if that means having two guys. But just keep in mind that if the two guys do not know about each other and somehow find out, you may have a big mess on your hands and you may find you've hurt someone (or both) you care about. Most likely, after a while, someone is going to want a more serious one-to-one commitment though and you're going to have to decide what to do (and I hope you're lucky enough to have found 2 guys who like sharing you but chances are pretty slim on that one). Enjoy what you have now, make sure you protect yourself, and know it can't last, might end up in flames without a happy outcome for anyone.
2007-02-24 14:41:30 · answer #1 · answered by Inundated in SF 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is wrong however I'm only 20 so I'm sure my opinion doesn't matter.
my reasoning for it to be wrong is that cheating is not right! It hurts people. It hurts everyone involved. Your husband died, but if he were watching over you how do you think he'd feel seeing you with other men?
I don't think it's okay for anyone of any age to sleep around. I have a serious boyfriend, very long term and he's the only man I've ever been with and I don't plan on being with anyone else.
There are too many stds and risks involved with sleeping with randoms or more than 1 at a time.
I'm sorry but it's just a whore thing to do.
You are 50 years old. That means you're suppose to be wise and know right from wrong but obviously not.
What you're doing is wrong, and you should stop. You're not a good role model for younger women.
2007-02-24 14:34:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not really wrong but it could cause a lot of trouble.
Do either of these two men love you or is it just sex?
If one of them is in love with you then it is wrong...make sure they both understand that they may not be your only lover so they wont get mad at you later..I would be pissed if I thought I was the only one and found out that there was someone else but if I understood that I wasn't the only one then I couldn't get mad at you..at least you were honest..
2007-02-24 14:35:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in a committed relationship with either one of them then it is wrong. On the otherhand if both men know that you make no garuntees of exclusivity in the bedroom, etc. then what you do is your business.
2007-02-24 14:32:19 · answer #4 · answered by danl747 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Honestly it makes you look like a (enter bad word here) Try to find one person you have something in common with. Two men at the same time is gross. GOD Bless
2007-02-24 14:34:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There's nothing wrong with it. Just be honest and tell the men you are with about the others and always be careful. I am lucky; my husband and I have a very open relationship. We are always open about who we see and what we are doing.
2007-02-24 14:37:31 · answer #6 · answered by Jensenfan 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is wrong if the relationship is supposed to be exclusive. Casual dating...no it isnt wrong you can date as much as you want, theres no real commitment in dating.
2007-02-24 14:32:50 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Interpreted 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU GO GIRL! I think is great and if I were single I'd want to have a threesome too. Just once.
2007-02-24 14:37:57 · answer #8 · answered by Georgewasmyfavorite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its wrong to sleep with even one out of wedlock. The idea of seeing two at the same time to have fun and not a serious relationship is fine. But what you described....yes you are displaying wrong behavior.
2007-02-24 14:33:26 · answer #9 · answered by gluckstadt_randy 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No, I do not think it is wrong. You are a grown woman and should and can make your own choices in life. I say go for it and have fun !!!
2007-02-24 14:33:09 · answer #10 · answered by answerqueen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋