She already betrayed me once in our four month relationship, whe she kissed a guy when she was away from me, i gave her one more chance because i loved her.
Now i came to know that she is pregnent and before etting married i asked her weather she lied to me in any way. She told me that she had apart from one person i knoe about she fooled around with many and she sept with two more just because she was young and immature. I already know about one guy she was with for past two years, but now aftr knowing all about her past and that she lied its difficult for me to accept her..
She told me she was afraid that i will walk away, after knowing how wild and bad her past was, since i was a virgin. But now i feel betrayed and feel like she cheated on me.
She is not ready for abortion and told me to be with her or walk away, but she will never go for abortion waht should i do, should i marry her or walk away. I feel betrayed if i stay with her, but if i walk away i feel bad..
2007-02-24 14:21:23 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's a tough situation. If she doesn't want an abortion, you need to respect that. I wouldn't do that either. However, I don't think you should marry her. If she has already cheated on you and hurt you in just four months, why would she be loyal for a lifetime? Also, you need to step up and be a man for the baby's sake. Be in your child's life and do your part to take care of him/her. That's another reason not to marry the girl. The relationship probably would be a disaster and it's not fair to bring an innocent child into that kind of environment. I know it's tough to hear...hope it helps.
2007-02-24 14:30:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do not marry someone because they are pregnant! You will be in for misery. How old are you? Sounds like she is pretty young. You as a father have every right to be in the babies life without having to stay in a romantic relationship with her. First get a DNA test. Then you need to file for some visitation rights. I would end that relationship. If you are not in that child's life you will regret it and when you finally do find your child it might be too late and he/she will resent you and may have been told bad things about you. If she has the choice to have an abortion or not you have the choice of being in that babies life whether your with the mother or not!
2007-02-24 14:28:10 · answer #2 · answered by Cristina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love her and trust her enough to give her another chance do it but don't be suprised if this happens again. Although cheaters that are immature do change that could mean that she had just made a mistake if you do not forgive her please don't forget about that beautiful baby that is coming. But, if she has been cheating you need to get a blood test on that baby to make sure its yours.
2007-02-24 14:27:35 · answer #3 · answered by Lola H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She hasn't said anything that sounds like an apology, and she hasn't offered to get therapy or couples counselling. It doesn't sound she really wants to change she just wants a stable guy to take care of her. She if she will at least go to premarital counselling and she only says she won't cheat anymore but refuses to go, then don't believe her.
2007-02-24 14:53:13 · answer #4 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a DNA test to see if you are the father. If you are, stay in the childs life in some way or another.
If not, move on, and get a new life with someone loyal
2007-02-24 14:40:37 · answer #5 · answered by bob shark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont stay with her because you feel bad, If you feel betrayed and if you want to walk away, then walk away. Dont let people treat you like sht
2007-02-24 14:25:00 · answer #6 · answered by ♣Kellina♣ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask for paternity testing. If it proves to be yours, step up to the plate and deal with the responsibility.
I wouldn't marry her. You'll make both of your lives a living he!!.
Remember...you play, you pay. Use a condom in future.
2007-02-24 14:25:01 · answer #7 · answered by Blue 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dont stay with someone just because of a baby...that baby has nothing to do with your relationship with her...however you need to definatly take responsibility for your actions...
2007-02-24 14:31:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUDE YOU ARE IN A BAD SITUATION YOU WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO KNOW IF THAT KID IS YOURS IF YOU STAY SO I SAY WALK OR GET A PATERNITY TEST BUT DONT MARRY HER JUST BECAUSE YOU HAVE A KID DOESN'T MEAN YOU HAVE TO MARRY HER
2007-02-24 14:27:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest giving her something to induce abortion. You don't want an 18 year financial obligation to a whore like this.
2007-02-24 14:25:36 · answer #10 · answered by cloudofeiderdown 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋