I am supposed to see him in a week, so he can return my belongings. It's been 5 months since we broke up. We were together 2 yrs, and I found out, he heard alot of rumours about me. I want to sit down and talk about, just to clear things up, and, I think he agreed. I am still in love with him. He started dating a girl right after we broke up, and she is insanely jealous and insecure of me.
I still love him, do I tell him? I dont want to come accross as "that person" you know, chasing him, not letting go and moving on.......but then I also figure, heck, what do I have to lose. Except, my pride.....I think he still cares for me, but he wont do anything cause hes with this girl still.
2007-02-24 14:19:39 · 18 answers · asked by confusedbrowngirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yea talk 2 him and let him kno :: if he doesnt want 2 listen then hey its his problem :: u will jus have 2 face it that he's not worth it if he doesnt trust u!
2007-02-24 14:23:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're right, you have nothing to lose so I think you should. If he feels the same then he will return it and he can get rid of the new gf.
I think it's a good idea you're going to clear some things up with him. Also, if you tell him how you feel and you've cleared everything up and he ends up wanting to move on, it'll be easier for you because you'll both have let everything out and that's called closure. It's a win/win situation even if it doesn't feel like it. You're doing yourself a huge favor by doing this, but I hope it works out for your benefit. If not, it'll be hard, but that's all you can do. Maybe if he feels the same way and he just needed to hear it, things will work out and he'll break up with his new gf. Just know that whatever happens, you gave it your all and you can learn to move on with him or without him with that attitude and give your all to everything else in your life. Good luck!
Oh, and I understand the pride thing. No one would think of you less if you put your heart on the line and handled things in a mature matter. It's what you want and going after it. If people judge you for that, then they're not worth your time.
2007-02-24 22:29:17 · answer #2 · answered by meghanw1 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you've really come to grips with the break up or the actual causes. Every relationship has its mysteries, and I think you should accept his current relationship as a fact of life, and not overburden the remnants of the relationship you will have with too much information.
That said, if you change your goal in the conversation to maintaining a friendship, I do suggest you come to some sort of understanding about what happened and where your feelings and events have led the both of you.
I wish you luck and hope your heart heals swiftly. 2 years is a long time, but you'll recover and your heart will be better for it.
2007-02-24 22:24:20 · answer #3 · answered by Jason W-S 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you just have to wait and see how it goes when you see him. If he appears to still care about you, then tell him. If he acts as if he could care less, and is happy with his present girlfriend, I wouldn't tell him. I'd just move on. But if he started dating a girl right after you guys broke up, he doesn't sound like he cared much to begin with. I personally think you should put him in the past where he belongs, and concentrate on YOU.
2007-02-24 22:23:51 · answer #4 · answered by Smiley 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he cared for u so much, he wouldnt have a girl right after a 2yr break up. HE'S SUPPOSED TO BE DEVASTATED. Leave him alone and move on. If u talk to him, all u are saying is that u accept second best cause he will f*** u and still be with his new gf. It seems like he is totally over u...............think about it...............how long has he known this girl?
2007-02-24 22:29:25 · answer #5 · answered by Simmi Reds 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he takes you back he is stupid because you apparently have already cheated on him and if you get away with it once you will continue to cheat.
Set him free if you really love him, those supposed rumors were probably true or you would have said he heard lies about you and not rumors, rumors by definition are unproven facts...facts...lies are not true you chose to say rumors which leads me to believe you were up to no good..
So just leave this poor guy alone.. You don't love him you just want to abuse him some more because you know he has a new girlfriend...
2007-02-24 22:27:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Two thoughts. One: Why did you break up? Did that situation get resolved, or are you just lonely? IF the problems truly do not exist anymore, then you should tell him, and then...
Two: He needs to poop or get off the pot. Make a choice big guy, and then you need to abide. There's no waiting around sitting on the fence while he digs having two girls want him.
2007-02-24 22:24:50 · answer #7 · answered by momof2 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
seriously if you love him ide tell him but he needs to understand that u still have feelings for him maybe you two will get back together good luck!
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Love always finds a way back into someones heart even when broken....
2007-02-24 22:23:13 · answer #8 · answered by jodi_bim 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let him know how you feel. If he still loves he will eventually
come back to you. About the jealous one,don't worry, She's
just insecure and fears she will lose him to you. GOOD LUCK!
2007-02-24 22:25:09 · answer #9 · answered by lizzy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So you are torn between your love for him and self love. Well they say vanity is one of the deadly sins. But lets be honest. You dont love this guy. If you did, you wouldnt have even thought twice about not telling him. I think you just want this guy because you cant have him.
2007-02-24 22:24:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋