I am 14, and I have never ahd a b/f. How can I break this record, and is that as weird as it sounds?

Question

My friends r always bugging me about no having a b/f, and I just dont know what to do.

Answer 1

I know everyone has been telling you this, but don't worry about it too much! Your friends are being lame if they're worrying about your private life. I had friends like that when I was your age because I didn't have my first boyfriend until later in highschool. It does NOT mean you're not as good or as pretty as your other friends. Tell them that you don't want a boyfriend right now because you don't want to have to be tied down. You want to be able to enjoy middle school! If you do really want a boyfriend and don't just want one because your friends are bugging you about it, try finding a nice, cute boy in one of your classes and ask to borrow something, pencil? Or ask him a question about something you're learning. Or you could just make a little joke to him, guys love a sense of humor in a girl. Give him a nice smile and see how he reacts. Be confident! That's the best thing you can do. But no matter what, you need to remember not to let people pressure you into things, set your own pace in life. Good luck!

Answer 2

Your friends are loose. You need to make new friends. At the age of 14 you should be enjoying yourself at the museum or bowling alley or the skating rink or the bookstore or even the library. The same friends that are egging you on may have never even had a boyfriend themselves. But, they want you to take the big leap and put yourself out there on front street and ruin your reputation and soil yourself. Involve yourself with your family more. When was the last time that you and your family bowled together or went to see a play? Have you ever been to a play or a symphony? Your time for a boyfriend will come soon enough. In the meantime, you and your mother and the rest of your family are all that matters. You can play board games and laugh with them and learn from them. The lesson that you need to learn now is how to be your own person. Step aside from the crowd and decide for yourself what it is that you want. Base your decisions on longevity other than the 14 years that you are now. A boyfriend at your age can have a big impact on your life. TELL THEM TO BUG OFF, that you've got thinking of your own to do.

Answer 3

You have plenty of time . Don't worry about it. If you want to, make friends with the guys. You don't have to try to get a boyfriend. It can be about anything you thing boys are interested in from the game last night or who's going to win the next game? Maybe you can talk about a certain class if you happen to be in the same one. Guys can be just as shy as girls especially when it comes to asking them for a date. Remember if your 14 is he old enough to have a car and drive? If your friends have dates how do they get transportation at 14?

Answer 4

Don't worry about it one bit it's not weird at all. You are very young and even though others seem to have "boyfriends" none of them will last more than 18 mos or so at the max and even those are very rare. It seems like it is a loooong time but if you don't have a "boyfriend yet it's only because the right guy who piques your interest hasn't come along yet. You have a whole lifetime to worry about love, just enjoy being young and living life to the fullest every day!

Answer 5

It's not important I'm14 and never had a bf I'm single and happy. You don't need a bf to complicate things anyways..I'd rather wait anyways so I can have a serious relationship guys now are stupid and only after one thing. your friends shouldn't bug you about that. If you geta bf just to please other people you'll settle for someone no good and probably take things too far just to live up to everybody else. Wait until you're older and a nice guy asks you you'll be better off. All my friends who have or had bf's are hurt or regretting their decision. P.S. People pressure you into getting a bf now but when you become one of those girls who changes bf's more than they change their panties they talk about you...be smart

Answer 6

Life should be journey not a race,especially against your friends.

Dating with the opposite sex is not guaranteed for anyone at the same age or grade level. Just enjoy your freedom and have fun like other carefree teenager girls do.

Be careful what you wish for because you get hooked up with the wrong guy. As you become older you will learn more about yourself,the type of boys you like and which ones to stay away from!!!

If you were in your mid or late 40's with this same questions, then you should be concerned;you have plenty of time to worry about that. Just be nice and be yourself.

Answer 7

Look hun, I was just like that when I was 14, and I went out with the first guy that asked me. That was a disaster and a half...I am almost 30 now and the people that knew me then STILL tease me about it. You should break the record when you find a really cute guy that you are really into, who is really into you, cause then you'll ALWAYS have a great memory of your first boyfriend.

Answer 8

First off, tell you friends to stop worrying about you. Trust me when I say that you should not be in a hurry to find one. I know, being a female and being young, you are probably thinking yeah right, but trust me. I rushed into a lot in my life and although I don't regret it, I wish I would have been patient and let Mr. Right come along instead of Mr. Right Now! Besides, young boys don't really know who to treat a girl. The older they get and you as well, the better chances of finding what you are looking for. Take your time and have fun.

Answer 9

There's no problem with being 14 and not having a boyfriend. I have a friend who's 19 and has never had a boyfriend. Why date someone just to have a boyfriend? Wait until you actually like someone to take it to that step... so what if all your friends have had boyfriends before, that doesn't mean you need to have one. Tell your friends that you don't see the point in dating someone if you don't like them anyway!

Answer 10

I'm 14 myself.
Wether you are in 8th or 9th it is fine you have never had a boyfriend. I have but not a serious one. It doesnt really matter until you get older...seriously there isnt a point of having a boyfriend until you are way into high school then it really counts. Boys are idiots who break girl's hearts constantly. Take my advice and tell your friends shut up!