After twenty three years of marriage my wife tells me she doesn't feel special,and I haven't a clue of how to change that I love her with all my heart.We have two kids that are not ideal kids but there our kids.We have a twenty year old son who has graduated from high school but doesn't want to work are go to collage.We have a seventeen year old daughter that gives both of us fits,she has a ghetto fabulous attitude.We both work our tails off.Lately she has become so distant that it scares me.she doesn,t want to come home,she has no intamance and it seems she has no love for me at all.When I try to talk to her about it she really gets distant.I realy can't go into much detail but the long story short is she is not happy and she needs somthing more she needs to feel special.So how do I make my wife feel special,with out braking the bank and flowers an't it.
2007-02-24 14:03:06 · 6 answers · asked by Brandon C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell her she is beautiful and how you love her more every year. Look her in the eyes and really listen to her when she talks to you. Help her around the house with cleaning and dishes. Try at least once a week to make dinner for her. Make it a point to go out one night a week "a date night" go to a movie and dinner.
Go away for a week-end package at a nice Inn with a nice dinner and massages. Just focus on each other. Hug her, kiss her, touch her face. Play games, talk about the love and the fun times you had when you first met and thru the years. Maybe she is depressed. See if she would consider going as a couple to a marriage counselor. Hang in there. Good Luck
2007-02-24 15:24:55 · answer #1 · answered by luh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it would really show her how much you love her if you'd make her a photo album. Take photos of you together, any love notes that you've written over the years (even ones from her to you), anything sentamintal, write her new ones and put it in there. Sometimes when couples are going through a difficult time, if they can reflect on what used to be, looking at old photos and such, it can make you remember why you loved someone in the first place. You can buy her favorite cd, maybe go someplace that's special to you guys. Some place where you can park your car and look at the city and just talk.
2007-02-24 14:29:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
These are some things my husband does that make me feel special. He helps me around the house. He always tells me he loves me and calls me beautiful (even when I'm sick or have just woken up). He sends me funny little text messages all of the time or calls me just to say I love you. He gives me body massages and draws me bubble baths. When he senses that I'm getting tense or fed up, he'll take the kids and give me some alone time (ours are 11 and 10 yrs. old).
It sounds like you and your wife need some alone time. Have a good old-fashioned date night or go away for a weekend, even if it's just to a local motel or Bed & Breakfast. Court her like you did when you first started dating. I hope this helps you and good luck to you both.
2007-02-24 14:30:32 · answer #3 · answered by Coop's Wife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend some time alone with her, go to a place maybe a park, where you do not have to pay. Your kids probaly cause a lot of stress for both of you. They should have jobs and earn some of their own things.
Tell your wife you love her.
2007-02-24 14:13:49 · answer #4 · answered by baby doll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to fix it with sex. Most women want intimacy. You don't always have to talk. Just being in the same room and being available for conversation should she want it. Just let her know that you will always be there for her. Support is the best thing in your situation. Seek counseling if that doesn't work.
2007-02-24 15:06:52 · answer #5 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should recreate your 1st date
Flirt with her
End the evening with a little something specail (necakle maybe)
Then have a walk on the beach
2007-02-24 15:20:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋