so i have a boyfriend but my dad wont let me date, what should i do?

Question

.. he is so paranoid about the whole thing. he says i cant see him because he is up to no good and only after one thing and he wants to protect me from him. but i dont think thats true at all. he's really nice, and sweet and respectable. what should i do? im 17, and he's 20. should i still see him but make sure my dad doesnt find out like sneak out or something. i really like him.

and should i believe my dad about not trusting this guy, or should i give him a chance..ive known him for a couple of months now

Answer 1

Trust your dad for now. Put your guys friends, sweetness to the test and see if he will wait until after he will wait until you turn 18 and leave home for college to talk to you. You'll find out if he is up to no good or really nice and respectable.

Answer 2

Let me tell you something most of the time our parents are right rather we want to believe them or not. If you only known this guy for a couple of months then maybe you should remain his friend and find out some more info before trying to date him. Plus you are at that age where you just want to do what you want to do and not be questioned shoot your almost grown. Now when your grown thats a different story, but usually our fathers you to be those 20 year old guys who 17 year old girls you to think was sweet and respectable.

Answer 3

trust your dad's observations, guys can see guys for who they really are, just like when a girl is playing a guy and you can look at her and see how fake she is and you think the guy is lame cause he can't see her game. same sex people can identify little idiosyncrocies in people the opposite sex can't. you will see what you want to. you only have another year before you can legally decide who you want to see, if it is true love, it will still be there, if not, you escaped some heartache. daddy knows the look of being after only one thing, he has seen it in the mirror before, we all have. young guys arent suppose to be thinking of settling down starting a family losing their freedom, they just gained it. the biggest problem with a girl of your age and a guy of his is that you will get hooked on the sex and it will lead you to accept things you wouldn't if you were more mature, your taste will change over the years but you will be addicted to the sex, you will hate that you let him control your life, and you will hate him for doing it, even though you wanted it at the time. I have seen it happen too many times. if he starts to treat you badly, you will keep going back for the sex. remember, 20 year old guys don't want sexless girlfriends. girls mature faster than guys do so you are naturally drawn to older guys. their maturity is that they learn to act a little less eager but it is an act, they are just as eager, dad is right. more so , they are a little more confident. which girls your age can't resist. dads can be over protective of their little girls sometimes, but trust he has your best interest at heart. he knows a horndog when he sees one.

Answer 4

well he does seem pretty old...im not really in2 that whole date guys that are a year away from bein able to legally drink when im only a year in2 being able to legally drive...but u should tell ur dad that ur old enuff to make ur own decisions n own judgements...n that he should start letting u do that a lil bit b4 u head off in2 college/the workplace or else ur not gonna now how to act around guys n 1 could very ezily sweep u off ur feet n screw u n the same night n leave u pregnant in the middle of an ally...after ur done tellin him that ask him...what would you do if that happened to me. id hope after that hed respect what YOU want

Answer 5

we r born to re produce.. part of this act involved the sweetness u see in this guy right now...he wants 1 thing ONLY, he dosnt like u for ur mind. If u do see him, its illeagle to hav sex with him, so u have to say right away NO SEX AT ALL! and see if he still liked u in 2 weeks....yes that should do it.. if he moved on to find another young princess then u know his real motive..MATING LOL
U only have 1 dad ..... chances r ur gonna hav 20 boyfirends or more.. Peace

Answer 6

He just might worry a little about the age difference. With my experiences from not taking my mom's advice I have heard, "I told you so," many times. Sometimes being older and experienced they see things that we don't. I am 21 so I haven't forgotten how it is. Fathers can be paranoid I suggest talking to a woman about it. Sometimes older men go for younger guys to take advantage especially virgins.

Answer 7

You are "daddy's little girl" is how a lot of dads feel when their daughters are of dating age. Please talk with your father about the three of you getting together (for coffee or lunch) and talk. Let your dad do his "dad thing" of getting to know this guy. My dad once told me that a man can size up another man in 5 minutes of conversation. Please, don't sneak out to see him. Do this get together with him, your dad and you. By the way, if at any point your dad wants to talk with him in private for a few minutes, let them talk. Dads used to be guys your boyfriends age, he knows how guys that age think, since he was that age once himself. Take care.

Answer 8

Don't sneak out... if u really like him, u should let those feelings be known and try to explain things 2 your dad... and if he has anything to say, u should listen and take what he says into consideration.

Answer 9

20 year old men are not nice sweet and respectable, he wants to get into your pants, your dad was 20 once and he know how guys really are,
choice is yours
good luck

Answer 10

maybe u should run away from home...get knocked up... then become a fake army veteran and make sign up on the side of the interstate.

really ur 17 and he's 20...all he is thinking about is vagina and how he's gonna play u like a trick.