I'm dating a female that always think i'm doing something behind her back..which i'm not. I always let her know where i'm at, answer my phone 99.9% of the time, and stay at home pretty much all the time with her (we live together). I tell her that i love her and that she is beautiful and the only woman for me...but it doesn't seem to be working.
2007-02-24 13:34:02 · 8 answers · asked by inet_cadet 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not sure what she is getting so worked up about. She has things pretty good. My bf is never home...
2007-02-24 13:39:36 · answer #1 · answered by Suz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe she is very insecure. It seem's as if she had been in bad relationships in the past, and what ever was done to her, she has taken it out on you. That's wrong. You need to really sit down with her and ask her why is she so insecure when the both of you are apart for a period of time.
Try inviting her to places that you are going to, for instance, the store, the park, a couple's house. But let her explain why she behave's this way and how it is affecting your relationship with her. Tell her that her behavior is what could drive you away from her.
Help her to change and build up her security. But, she has to work on her own personal self worth and build trust in you. You sound like a very affectionate man. She is lucky to have such a person as yourself. I believe your relationship will work, if she works on her self esteem, self worth, and insecurities..those negative assests will damage any relationship after a certain amount of time.
But you guy's need to really talk this out. And let her know exactly how you are feeling, don't leave anything out..lay everything on the line and tell her to do the same.
After that, things should start falling into plan..I wish you the best and her too!
2007-02-24 22:21:45 · answer #2 · answered by cherrypopsickle2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my guess is she was hurt badly and more than once in the past. not just by boyfriends but maybe she was sexually abused by a male adult figure as a child, parents divorced and didnt really have much contact with her father, any one of these things or all, as in my case. I am just like that, or at least used to be, and although I will always be insecure and afraid of ym husband leaving, I am not as fearful and I don't harass him all the time like I did. I can only tell you 2 things that helped me, his reassurance(as you are doing), but also him occasionally going somewhere without me for a while and making me just deal with it(I would go to moms or friends to pass the time). as he came home when he promised, time after time, I started to realize that he really wasn't going anywhere and that his life was with me. when you have insecurity and fear from the things I mentioned earlier, it takes a long time to believe you are good enough for this person and that they mean what they say. if you love her, give her time, and make her do her own thing while you do yours from time to time and she should come around. good luck
hubby and i have been married almost 7 years so it can work.
2007-02-24 21:43:49 · answer #3 · answered by donnyschick33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her WHY she doesn't trust you (maybe she has had a bad relationship in the past where he cheated?), trust is the base of all relationships, without it, it will fail. Tell her exactly where you're going, if she would like to come, when you will be back, etc.
If this continues, I think you should break up with her, she needs to realize her own self worth and be more willing to trust those she loves.
Bring her home presents and other things to show you were thinking about her while you were gone.
2007-02-24 21:39:36 · answer #4 · answered by Katie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a tough problem. You seem to be doing all the right things, but you need to ask her what is making her jealous. It is most likely a confidence problem on her part. But you need to hear from her what is making her jealous. If that is the case, you can continue to try and build her confidence. What you are doing and time may help that, it may not. If this does not seem to improve, you will need to make the decision whether you can live with it or do you need to move on.
2007-02-24 21:39:39 · answer #5 · answered by Appliance Man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to tell her look, you appreciate that she has trust issues but it's not my responsibility to help you resolve them. Tell her that she needs to get therapy or you're out the door. You don't have to be mean about it, just straight up. I was with someone like that once and I wasn't doing anything wrong, he just was so insecure. You can't fix that, only a therapist can.
2007-02-24 21:41:37 · answer #6 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are jealous for no damn reason. Living with her and thinks you are doing ****....delusional...but of course you may have habits that indicate that you are suspicious. So, it is all circumstances.... just don't let her catch you talking to other women or complement them.
2007-02-24 21:38:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is very insecure, and she isn't in love with you. Love does not breed jealousy, infatuation does. Move on, your Ms Right is waiting for you
2007-02-24 21:38:18 · answer #8 · answered by Cindy 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋