A mother of a 5 year old child takes a job as a (legal) prostitute in Nevada. She makes a ton of money doing and has no problems supporting the kid, although she has to be gone a lot for her "work" and hires a nanny (the mother makes over $100,000 year).
The father wants primary custody. He's a warehouse worker making $20 per hour, and with child support from the mother he could provide a stable home life for the child, without being away as much as the mother has to be. The father is willing to allow the mother to have reasonable visitation.
The mother won't voluntarily give up primary custody. It's up to you, the judge, to decide who should get primary custody. Neither of the two have a proven drug or alcohol problem, there are no allegations of abuse on either side.
Who should get primary custody?
2007-02-24 13:26:28 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I am not going to tell you what you want to hear.
As long as the mother is not engaging in illegal activity and she is not "working" in the child's presence a judge is not going to remove the child from the primary caregiver it has been w for its 5 years of life.
2007-02-24 13:53:18 · answer #1 · answered by jillmarie2000 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So who would take care of the child while the father works? I mean will he be leaving the child home alone? I personally don't think a child should be raised in a home where the mother is a prostitute, but I know that sometimes single moms have to do what they have to do to take care of their children (even though sometimes their choices are not smart ones).
Since you posted this question twice switching the roles, I am assuming you want us to agree that the father should have the child. Especially since in the sentence about the nanny, you forgot to put "for HIS "work"" when you posted the other one. But I'm not going to do that.
There is much more info to base a custody case on than just the job (which by the way, is seriously a bad career choice for her). I think if I were the judge and that were the only thing keeping the child from staying with it's mother, I would give the mother 1 month to find a better career. A child needs involvement from both parents, but I just hate seeing a child that young being taken away from a capable mother. But that wouldn't be the only thing the case would be based on anyway....so I don't know!
2007-02-24 16:07:54 · answer #2 · answered by Angel D 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This sounds like a no-brainer. Both parents care for the child. Both can provide. Neither abuse. So, the logical answer is the mom. The only time I feel a father should have primary custody is if the mother is unfit, chooses to give her child up, or the child chooses to live with dad. Sorry, I know fathers are capable, but babies belong with their mothers if at all possible. That's not to say dads aren't important, or don't get tp play an equal role, but the place of residence should be with the mother. (Why does the prostitution make a diff? If it's legal, and she's not parading these men around the house? A LOT of people have time-consuming jobs, that doesn't make them bad parents.)
2007-02-24 18:07:32 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda D 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
The mothers job is legal and even though morally I may think it's wrong is not the point of issue. When talking about taking a child from a parent there needs to be other questions answered....is there any harm to the child? Does the mother ever take her work home? It is a concern that a john may follow her home or she may become a victim of a stalker but that can happen regardless of her occupation. How involved has the father been with this child ? What effects mentally will happen to this child if the father takes custody? What hours does the mother really work are the set like other jobs? To many unanswered questions to answer this informatively.
2007-02-24 14:36:03 · answer #4 · answered by tarows_sorrow 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As a former single mother who had crap jobs and worked more than I was home- I don't think the father should have full custody just because this woman is a prostitute. She works, she puts food in the kid's mouth and a roof over her head.
The man wants the child support money he'd get out of her because she makes more than him.
2007-02-24 13:32:05 · answer #5 · answered by momofthreemiracles 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like the mother is perfectly capable of providing a stable home. She's got a legal job, making money, providing for the kid. No judge would take the kid away from her for that. Maybe dual time or something is the best the father could hope for.
2007-02-24 13:35:21 · answer #6 · answered by eri 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The father....No child deserves to be brought up with a mother in that sort of industry regardless on how much money she earns. And its not like she is even looking after her child, the nanny is!
I think dad would be the most suitable to care for his child. But has anyone asked the child what he or she would like???
2007-02-24 13:44:53 · answer #7 · answered by Jassie's mum 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think the father should get custody. He is earning money in a decent moral way, and would teach his child the same. When that child is old enough to realize how his/her mother is making a living, it will be hard on them..or they will think it's okay...and do the same when they grow up.
2007-02-24 17:10:50 · answer #8 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Personally, I would give custody to the father. While the mother is working legally, I would feel morally bound to give custody to the father. Guess that's why I'm not a judge.
2007-02-24 13:31:52 · answer #9 · answered by makin_the_same_mistakes 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
wow this is a tough question. i would say give joint custody. the father gets certain days and the mother gets certain days. and when the mother isnt home, the child should be with the father, not with a nanny. the mother loves her child, and shes not doing anything illegal.
2007-02-24 14:48:02 · answer #10 · answered by orangequeen9208 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋