how do you help an adult son who is on crack and has addhd when he wont get help or on medication for his addh

Question

he needs to be on medicine for his adult addhd but he wont and he has two sons who needs him well

Answer 1

the show Intervention

Answer 2

This is a heartbreaking situation and my heart goes out
to you. You are going to have to take those boys into
your home as fast as possible before any more tragedies
happen. If your son doesn't want to stop his addictions
then the only thing to do is focus on those boys. They
don't need a father who cares so little for them that he's
willing to expose them to his horrible life. They need
stability and a warm, loving home. As hard as it might
be, I would petition the courts for custody as soon as
possible and concentrate on repairing the damage
already done to them by your son's selfish behavior.
Even if he should go to re-hab, it's a long road to
any kind of recovery. I don't think it would do those
boys any good to witness the very painful transition
time. I know this sounds harsh, but you are in the
middle of an emergency. The best of luck to you.

Answer 3

I am really sorry that this is happening to you and your grandsons. I will pray for you.
It may seem harsh but after you get custody of your grandchildren, you must inform your son that you will no longer enable hm by giving him money, a place to sleep or any kind of assistance AT ALL unless he enters treatment.
Be firm that he cannot and will not see his kids unless he is clean.
I really wish you all of the best.

Answer 4

As any addict will tell you, b4 you can change, you need to hit "rock bottom," which he cant do if people support him and the habit. Get the kids away from him, they do not need to hit it with him.
Be there for him if he needs to talk, but do not enable him by giving in to his physical needs. Give him love, support, pray for him, help him arrange treatment when he is ready. But no one can force him to change, he has to want to. Its not easy, but tough love is what he needs. Watch the show "Intervention" for some ideas. Keep yourself strong, those little ones need a stable influence. God bless.

Answer 5

I don't suggest you try to take custody of the children unless he is doing drugs in front of them or is physically hurting them. I have friends whose parents do drugs. They aren't emotionally scarred or anything like that. Taking the kids away would just be more traumatic, with them having to go through the court process. If you truely, in your heart of hearts, beleive that taking custody of them would be best, then all the power to you, but if he doesn't really love them, he isn't going to get clean and taking them away won't fix the "scars" of having a father who is an addict, it will just further make them beleive that he doesn't love them. I suggest trying an alternative way of getting him into treatment, one that won't affect his children's lives as well as his. Try simply not giving him money or enabling him to get the drugs. Cut off all association with him, but not the children. Threaten him by saying that you are going to try to take custody of the kids. Don't do it, but simply threaten him with it. Then if worse come worse, follow through with the threat and take custody, though this should be a last resort. Take it from me, I am a recovering addict, I know what it is like. Very few things will convince him to stop. But never give up hope, whatever you do.

Answer 6

You take him for a drive to a grave yard.
Say that you want to remember him, alive.