The reception hall for our wedding said we have a choice of giving our dj and photographer either dinner, at about $77 each, or hors deouvres at $25 each (apparently we choose one or the other, not both). We're willing to pay for either, but what is the normal thing to offer?
2007-02-24 13:06:22 · 14 answers · asked by Grace1228 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It's not really $77 for the meal, that's the per head cost for the reception which includes an open bar. It's not a bad price for NJ, it's actually pretty moderate.
2007-02-24 16:25:15 · update #1
I love the fact that you're thinking of your vendors. It's very gracious and kind, not to mention polite, of you to offer something to eat to your vendors, especially if they're going to be working your wedding for more than 4 or 5 hours. Many brides don't offer their vendors anything.
I'd ask the photographer which they'd prefer. Hors deovers may be eaiser for them to eat while working, but may not be enough. They may prefer a full meal. The DJ most likely will only be working the reception and may not need a full meal.
My sister and I fed all our vendors at our weddings. In our family food is always part of big celebrations and everyone is welcome to eat. We feed everyone.
2007-02-24 13:32:28 · answer #1 · answered by Just Jess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're already planning on serving a meal to the other guests, it wouldn't be very fair not to serve them a dinner... You know? They're 2 of the main people that will both make your wedding entertaining and capture the memories in photographs all at the same time. Granted they're making enough money I'm sure, but if you're willing to pay either way your best bet is to actually give them a meal. Good Luck!
2007-02-24 22:50:22 · answer #2 · answered by Holly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a clergy & sometimes roadie to my professional musician.....
How about a bologna sandwich? Clergy (& spouse) should only be invited to your reception if you are a member of their congregation. Or if you have developed a very good friendship while planning your wedding. And invitation is always nice.
As a drummer, we are usually at a venue an hour before the rest of the band gets there, which they arrive about 2 hours before the 'gig' starts. It's not always possible to leave the venue to find a greasy spoon to grab a sandwich. So being at your reception 3 hours before it starts......well people do get hungry.
Your photographer will be there about 1 1/2 hours before the wedding starts & way into the night.
Even tho' he will be doing his job & not have time to sit down to dinner or mingle for hor d'oeuvres, again, a sandwich & something to wash it down with would be VERY appreciated.
2007-02-24 22:46:53 · answer #3 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I am giving our photographer the same meal as everyone else since we are getting an awesome deal on the food(about 7.00 per plate) but you don't have to provide a full meal for vendors...the hors doeuvres should be fine!
2007-02-24 21:14:14 · answer #4 · answered by Soon2BMrsCarlson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We fed our photographer but that was because shes one of my good friends and was invited to the wedding weither she did the photographing or not ..
With the DJ it was in our contract that we had to provide a meal or should i say 2 because there partner came to (like a security person, which they go to everyones)
Even if it wasnt in the contract i would have provided meals as our reception started at 6pm and there human and need food to just like the rest of your guests and yourself, they dont get a brake to go somewhere to be able to get something to eat do they.
2007-02-24 21:47:08 · answer #5 · answered by channy_simon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I fed my DJ and photographer what everyone else got but that was because they were friends and doing to job free as a wedding present. If you are paying $25 each for hors deourves you are getting rippped off. You need to rethink your caterer. But hor deourves or a partial meal is fine.
2007-02-24 22:56:34 · answer #6 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is not uncommon to offer vendors a separate meal. If they will be eating in a different room than your guests, then I would provide the hors doeurves. If they will be eating at a table in the same room where the rest of your guests are eating, then I would provide the dinner.
2007-02-24 21:50:32 · answer #7 · answered by Veronica W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can chose to offer them meals or not. The best way is to call them and ask if they take a meal break during their time. Most of the time photgraphers and DJs don't have time to eat because most of them are working while you are eating.
Honestly, I advise most of my clients not to provide them dinner meals unless you just want to be overly nice. Yet, I would give them the hors doeuvres because they pop into the mouth and keep moving. You do not want them to be distracted from their job by eatting.
2007-02-24 21:20:25 · answer #8 · answered by Wedding Lady 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am a photographer and I suggest that you do not need to feed either the photograpger or the DJ at your wedding reception. If they are doing their jobs thay should be busy and should not have time to eat.
2007-02-24 21:14:22 · answer #9 · answered by manwithplan05 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I believe the Deejay and or Photographer need to eat. This way they feel better and can focus on thier responsibilities without experiencing hunger pains, which could make thier job less entertaining.
2007-02-24 21:54:32 · answer #10 · answered by clintpittenger 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋