If a man (a 24-year-old, with limited (I think) experience with women), really liked you, would he ever talk about other women with you? Simply put, would you ever bring up (often) the attractiveness of other women to your female friend if you were truly attracted to HER? And if you did, would it be to make her jealous, or because you saw her as more of a sister figure? I'm having a lot of difficulty figuring out if this person likes me and is trying to make me jealous or if he really doesn't care.
2007-02-24 12:54:45 · 22 answers · asked by smiksmak 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Althought it is strange he may be into and desn't know how to make it known. Some guys try thier best to understand the female mind and maybe he thinks that by asking you he can gain a bit of insight on how you feel about different things. Other than tht just ask him what's up if you like him. Just tell him that oyu have been having feelings about him and was wondering if he felt the same way. See where it goes from there. You have to hold some place in his heart if he can come to you to talk about women.
2007-02-24 13:00:38 · answer #1 · answered by ltwatkins77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont understand why another person must ignore the existence of every other women in the world because he's attracted to one? Are you saying you pick out one guy and every other man in the world becomes an ugly face that you cant stand to look at? When you break up they become ok again until you pick out your next mate? It goes against human nature and its very selfish to insist other people act that way.
I would bring up that a some girl passing by or in a movie was attractive. If I got a reaction from the person I was talking to that gave me the impression she liked to talk about that kind of thing or maybe had an attraction to girls. If she was offended and I picked up on that clue, no I wouldnt bring it up anymore.
It is possible that your 24 year old friend with limited experience deserves a wider birth than you are used to with the standard male date and expected ediquette. How do you expect him to know you dont find this acceptable if you dont tell him? If he hasnt had that much experience with the opposite sex, either its for this reason or nobody has bothered to help him out up to this point.
So dont be offended by it. Help the guy and dont try to be so critical if you are, i mean.. i'm just judging based off of what you wrote in the question I obviously cannot know what you're really like either based on 3 sentences of text.
2007-02-24 12:58:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The next time he says something about another woman, why don't you say something like, "I'm a little offended!" He'll of course want to know why. Then you can say something like, "well, you're attracted to all of these other girls but you never say anything about me!" Then let it roll from there. It's possible that he might think that you're not interested in him. Or he may not be interested in you. This should get to the bottom of it.
Or the 2 of you could have a few drinks and you could play the silly girl that had 3 drinks and can't your hands off of him. That's always easy.
2007-02-24 13:08:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if he has limited experience with women, he may not know how to act. He might think he is doing the right thing.
You really should sit down and have a good heart to heart with him. If you like him let him know and also let him know that it's not cool to talk about other girls in that way around you.
If he likes you and would like to start dating you. You must let him know. Just tell him in a nice way that you really would rather talk about you and him.
Hope this helps a bit.
2007-02-24 13:03:44 · answer #4 · answered by janet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it really depends on the guy, and what his tactics are to "win" his crush. I myself really like this girl at work and when we are walking around together, I will tell her if I think another girl is attractive, sometimes she asks me if I find a certain girl attractive, and I tell her what I think (explain that to us guys) but I don't do it to make her jealous. So really- it might be his way of trying to get you jealous or he is just comfortable talking to you about his taste in women.
2007-02-24 13:05:45 · answer #5 · answered by trusted 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 10:23:51 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweets,, I dont have time to analyze him from your question of disseray, so sorry. In a nut shell. 1 Yes. 2 Perhaps 3. Sister/friend figure (or perhaps to keep you on your toes) I hate mind games too. Tell him to be honest and striaght with you or walk..... Hope it helps. Julz
2007-02-24 13:01:44 · answer #7 · answered by Julzz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he may like you, but think that since you're "friends" that he doesn't really have a chance. If he lacks experience, he is probably somewhat nervous and shy about women.
If you like him, based on what you've said, I suggest that you make the first move. Have him over for a movie at your place one night. Turn the lights down, and sit close to him. To egg him on, put your hand on his leg and when you're talking interject with a "... did you ever think about you and me...." or something like that....
2007-02-24 12:59:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
we just cant understand them. But they do that for both reasons. One to make us jealous. But most of the time they really do think someone is hot, even if they are 100% attracted to us. It's a guy thing. Somehow we gotta get used to it. :/
2007-02-24 12:59:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men will not play women off each other.
Its not that they aren't capable of the sophisticated
interplay required, its that it wouldn't even occur
to them.
Most men comment on beautiful women because
that's what is going on in their minds. If a thought
keeps bouncing around and around in your head,
you'll probably say things about it occasionally.
Generally, you should be glad he doesn't talk about
other women MORE. He is probably controlling it,
trying not to offend you.
2007-02-24 12:58:31 · answer #10 · answered by Elana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋