I'm asking for a friend of mine. He is a manager at a bank. One of the people under him invited several people from the bank to the wedding, but not him. Invitees include his boss as well. Now he feels slighted, what would you do? Also, he says the guy has only been working for him for about two months (due to a transfer)
2007-02-24 12:49:18 · 14 answers · asked by just LAURA for now 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
He has only worked for this guy for 2 months. The employee probably had the budget and number of people he could invite planned way before that time. Sometimes adding one more (or two if he brought his spouse) just doesn't work. I had to plan very carefully who I invited due to finances, and space size. I polled most of my chosen attendees in advance, and if someone couldn't make it, I quickly added someone else. Some of my friends from work were not able to be invited. They understood that you just can't invite everybody to your wedding. Tell your friend not to feel slighted, maybe he just couldn't squeeze in any more guests. There is a good chance he had to leave others out that he's known even longer.
2007-02-24 13:05:02 · answer #1 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've heard multiple times, like on websites discussing who to invite to the wedding, that coworkers and bosses should not be invited to your wedding unless you are genuinley very close friends with them. The person under him normally would not invite him to his wedding, but it is odd that he invited many others at the bank. If he's very close with those other people, it makes sense, but if not, it's a little weird. Also, he's only been working for your friend for 2 months, but was he maybe working with the others for longer and developed closer friendships with them? It's hard to know whether the situation is fair or unfair because we don't know his relationship with all those people, but either way, it would really be wrong to say anything about it, so it is what it is. I'm planning my wedding right now and it's hard to choose who to invite and who not to, but you have to draw the line somewhere and unfortunatly, peoples feelings do get hurt sometimes. :/
2007-02-24 13:22:24 · answer #2 · answered by Grace1228 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not inviting my boss to my wedding, unless most of our family say no anyway.
They could have a limited guest list and did the ol' pick and choose.
He shouldn't feel slighted, he's only known the guy for two months!
2007-02-25 02:32:38 · answer #3 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should ask the boss to his wedding. I did with my wedding. In fact, I had an open invitation to all the people at my job. Only a few came, but still the offer was for everyone. That was 108 invited from work. If you ask one boss, you ask them all.
2007-02-24 13:30:05 · answer #4 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel as though a wedding is a personal affair, and I think the invites are to those you feel close to. I wouldn't invite my boss to my wedding, as I don't speak to him about any personal affairs, and I definitely have a separate personal versus work life.
It is odd that his boss was invited, and that makes me quizical about the situation, but I honestly would tell your friend not to feel badly that co-workers were invited while he was overlooked. Chances are the person is far more chummy with the co-workers than the boss, and I imagine that is normal.
2007-02-24 12:59:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
depends.
are you friends with your boss.
if you get along then yes.
if your being threatened to invite your boss and you dont like him /her then dont cause this is a really important in a persons life . and the important people to you should be there
also you can either tell the boss the truth or say sorry the dead line is already done. if making up an excuse make it a smart one so the boss wont know its an excuse
2007-02-24 12:59:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its a bit unclear to me just who was transferred.
It is reasonable that the guy has invited the people he works with. He would get to know them faster than he would his manager.
I would make sure to send him a small but nice wedding present with a card. Maybe take him out to lunch if he is going to take time off for a honeymoon.
2007-02-25 17:32:00 · answer #7 · answered by mark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I only think the boss should be invited if you have a nice relationship with them where you chat about more than work..if the guy has only been there 2 months, that isnt that long to have gotten to know him so...tell him not to feel bad...
2007-02-24 12:57:23 · answer #8 · answered by Red Sox lover 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be overly concerned about it. Maybe he should just congratulate the guy on his upcoming wedding and just let it go at that. Maybe then he will get invited. if not , just keep on being his boss.
2007-02-24 13:09:10 · answer #9 · answered by GeeMann 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, if you are fairly close to your boss and are having a big wedding then yes, you probably should. But of your boss is someone you really dont like or your having justa small wedding then i wouldn't reccomend it. Hope that helped. :)
2007-02-24 12:57:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋