5 years ago my brother in law got shot at 16 years old, his twin sister still lives with the people who did it! (the man did not go to jail).. I don't want my 2 children around her because I think there is something wrong with her and my husband agree's with me but, when the holidays come around again this year what should I do about them being around her? Last Christmas she called and asked if she could come over and my husband told her no and she had to work by the time we went to her parents. I don't know what to do anymore because I am afraid if I go to far it could cause family problems! And she hates me! When I was pregnant with my son.. I got rushed to the hospital because I was so sick and thought I was going into labor on thanksgiving and they asked what had I ate... and the only thing I had was a glass of Tea she brought me!
2007-02-24 12:30:23 · 8 answers · asked by BlondGrl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Do you agree with me on keeping my kids away from her?
2007-02-24 12:35:50 · update #1
You are doing what your gut is telling you to do. Your children should be your primary priority. They should never come into harm's way just because your sister-in-law doesn't want to leave the guy that killed her twin brother. I say kudos to you for standing your ground regardless of what anyone says. If your husband's family does not understand, just voice your concerns. They need no other explanations as to why you do not want your children to be around their aunt.
2007-02-24 13:03:27 · answer #1 · answered by Meredith 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is your husband's family so he should be the major voice in this but it sounds like he agrees with you. If this is as bad a situation as you are saying and I don't doubt it then you should do what is best for you kids. What I can't imagine is why she would want to live with these people. Does she think that man is innocent? Someone else must think that if he killed someone and is not in prison. I really have as many questions about this situation as I have answers but you and your husband will stand before God some day and answer to how you cared for your kids. Why would the rest of the family want your kids around someone living with a murderer? I don't think I'd worry about what those people think as long as you and your husband are in agreement. God bless and guide you!
2007-02-24 13:02:37 · answer #2 · answered by moonrose777 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just keep your distance with them. Im glad that your husband agrees with you. The more you ignore them, the farther you push them away. Stop going to there house and stop inviting them over for the holidays. Give excuses.
Your husband can still have some type of a relationship with his family, but you should just stay away from that.
2007-02-24 12:36:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes..i strongly agree. I think that that should'nt have happened and you know she did it but they're still living with her. I dont know about your kids but i'd be scared. Why did they kill him..did she think he did something wrong? Maybe you should try to figure that out and talk to your children. Are they under 18? If so, then you can do what you want.
goood luckkk!
:)
2007-02-24 12:42:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I cannot give you any advice.
At least the background to the incident would be needed. Because:
It must have been an incident, when noone was imprisoned for it, it was not possible to proof anyone's fault.
If you (e.g.) kill your son by acident, because you drive one of those big Pickup-Trucks or a Hummer. And you did it by accident, wouldn't you be stuffed if anyone kicks your *** even a generation later?
No, to judge something, you need to have all of the case! Not only a part of it.
2007-02-24 12:41:48 · answer #5 · answered by sanctusilluminatus 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I ultimately agree with you... I would suggest you to stay far from that woman, and let your kids stay clear out of her direction. Enough said.
2007-02-24 12:42:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with you wantin to keep ur kids away from that type of environment! My suggestion to you is to jus tell her or have ur husband jus tell her how ya'll feel bout the situation of wat happen'd. Tell her that its nothin really against her, ur jus lookin out for your children! N don't EVER except anythin from her! Jus to be on the safe side!
2007-02-24 16:09:12 · answer #7 · answered by Andrea D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're doing the right thing by staying away from her, but what is your question?
2007-02-24 12:33:54 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋