ok so i just got my first serious boyfriend and my brother (19) isn't very pleased (im 14). David (my bf) is 16 and that p*sses my brother off like beyond beyond. its retarded. the other day david came to pick up his sister from my school and when he was waiting for her i went over to say hi and it just happened that when i hugged him bye my brother drove past and saw. he pulled over and started cussing me out (david already left) and was calling david a b*tch and a f*g and that he was gonna beat his a** and its really stupid. my dad already talked to him and i thought he was ok with it. what should i say to my brother because i cant live with him being on my back like this! i love him tons but hes p*ssed at me and thinks that im gonna have sex w. david when we both agreed not to. its stupid. plz help!
2007-02-24 12:25:06 · 8 answers · asked by Choconilla♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well your brother showed how much he loves you but at the same time that was really immature and wrong what he did to embarrass you like that. All brothers have a problem with their sisters having a boyfriend but they have to get over it. Its a part of growing up. Talk to him and let him know that you are not going to do anything that you shouldn't be doing and he has to have faith in you and trust you, also let him know that if you need him you will come to him just be there for you when and if you come.
2007-02-24 12:35:26 · answer #1 · answered by reddchilds 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. We " brothers" love to protect our little sisters... While it is true that you are annoyed by him, older brothers are recommended to observe to... Sure it's your life and you should have all rights to live you life, but the problem is that you are just 14 years old... There's nothing wrong in having a boyfriend at age 14, expect having sex, and I understand the inconvenience your brother is causing you... The best solution for this issue is to confront your brother and let him know David is just a friend... Yes, also tell yourself that David is just a friend because 14 year old girls don't necessarily need a personal boyfriend...P.S. Try not to tell your brother to back off; doing so will just hurt his feelings and lose respect for you... The last thing you need to tell him is to back off... Never, ever tell your brother to back off, because your boyfriend will someday disrespect you so bad that you can't forgive him for, while your brother will always remain genuine.
2007-02-24 12:33:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to tell your brother to back off just a little. You should be happy that he cares about your well being. BUT he has to calm down, and have some trust in you. Besides, after an episode like that, I don't think your boyfriend will dare try. Tell him that you aren't sexually active like he was at that age. He is afraid that you will turn out like him?? You should make sure you don't have sex at too young of an age. 14 is too young. Wait till you are 17--18 at least.
Besides, its not what people have it cracked up to be anyways.
2007-02-24 12:32:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him take this much control over you. I could see your brother calling your boyfriend a f@g or b*tch if your boyfriend was like 13 or younger especially but since he is 16 and older than you than this is absolutely ridiculous and you should stay with him.
2016-11-06 03:29:40 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is doing this because he loves you and wants to protect you.He sounds like he may be going overboard. My question is , does he know something on him or is he just hard timing?Tell your brother to back off. Tell him you know he is trying to take care of you,but this is over the limit. Tell him you will let him know if you need his help. But remember sometimes older siblings do know best.SOMETIMES.This may not be the case. Good luck and I hope you can get this situation under control without losing your boyfriend or your brother.
2007-02-24 12:34:48 · answer #5 · answered by leelee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your brother is a shitkicker with the IQ of budgie seed. Even if he is being protective, he's still making a complete w*nker out of himself.
All you can do is confront him, tell him to butt out, and point out what a complete pr*ck he makes out of himself when he sticks his nose in where it's not wanted.
Get him to imagine how he would feel if the rolls were reversed and you kept ranting at him if he went near a girl?
2007-02-24 12:33:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to get your parents involved and have them talk to him!
Have you ever thought your brother knows something about him that you don't?
2007-02-24 12:32:42 · answer #7 · answered by BlondGrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you love him but its none of his business who you date, and that you just want him to get along as he is a good guy. Then try as best you can to get them to avoid each other.
2007-02-24 12:29:44 · answer #8 · answered by PleaseNoMoreNumbers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋