Which one would you choose.?

Question

I have been with this person for five years. Over the course of this relationship we broke up and I started talking to someone else. I eventually feel in love with him and he loved me too. Then the ex wanted me back and I went back to him. Now things are getting rocky again and I'm wondering if I should have let the other person who obviously cared, loved, and wanted me more thatn my ex. I now that I think about it I want him back. Should I stay with the ex and try to work things out or to back to the one who I think will treat me better.

Answer 1

HA! That is exactly how things have happened to me!!!!! Lol.....Anyways.....First of all you have to find out how YOU feel.....Who do you like more? Which one do you think of? Can you pictures face everywhere? WHo treats you right? Doesn't care if his buddies are there and treat you the very same when alone? Hold your hand in public and kiss you? Kiss your forehead? Be there when you most need it? That is the important thing to know.....Answer those questions and I hope that helps! GOOD LUCK WITH YOUR DECISION!!!!!!!

Answer 2

It sounds to me like you really need to take some time away from both to really be able to look at the situation. It seems that if you truly loved the second person, you wouldn't have gone back to the first at all. I think that the ex should remain the ex. You say that the other cared, loved, and wanted you more than the ex, but what about you? How do you feel about him? Are you in love with him? You can love a person but not be truly IN love with him. Take time to be certain, or you can really get your life messed up. You haven't given a clue about your age. If you're very young, do take your time, and don't rush into a committed relationship. I learned the hard way. If I had stepped back and really considered the situation, I wouldn't have made the mistake that I did the first time. I hope that everything works out well for you.

Answer 3

Well you can run back to the one you think cares about you but how do you know he'll want you back after what you did? Lets say If he did take you back it'll take him awhile to trust you again and the relationship may not be the same as it was b4 u took ur ex back. Theres a saying once bitten you'll get bitten again and you did but you may not like what you get so I suggest you just move on from the both of them and find someone else....let time mend the hurt on ur side and on the guy u wnt 2 go bak to and if time and destiny is kind u may just find each other again

Answer 4

I think you should stay with whomever you truly love. Why did you leave your boyfriend for your ex in the first place? Are you now considering the other guy just because things are bad with your boyfriend now? You have to be honest with yourself first and then making the decision will be easy. You can't go back and forth between guys when things get rocky in the relationship. If you get back with the other guy and the relationship starts to get rough are you going to want your ex back? Just evaluate your feelings and I'm sure you'll be able to come up with the best decision for yourself.

Answer 5

Honestly. It don't matter what anyone thinks, or says to you. Every single answer will be wrong. Why? Because that answer can only come from YOU. You need to do what is going to make you happy. Consider the future. Not just tomorrow. Which future like 1 year, 2 years, 5 years appeals to you the most. Which guy are you going to be happy with the most and how secure are you with that future. Will you ALWAYS be loved? Will you ALWAYS be respected? If this one left once do you think he'll leave again? Do you feel it's worth the risk? All the RIGHT answers for YOU can only come from YOU. I hope you are happy whichever you choose.

Answer 6

You broke up the first time for a reason. Now you know why you had that reason. Things can never be the same nor can they be better than before the initial break up. Cut your loses and move on. You will thank yourself. You should be the one to treat yourself better. don't go back to anyone. Go forward to something new and have standards. If they don't meet or exceed your standard show them the exit sign. Take care of you first then them. Have a great day!

Answer 7

You know which one to do. History is history, if he doesn't treat you well, leave you don't deserve anything less. If you feel the other will treat you better, and you would be better off, then go with him. You should think some about being on your own for awhile. What you want just might change. Good luck.

Answer 8

Well if it keeps getting rocky with the "ex" as you keep calling him (very telling that) and if the newer relationship looks to be better, then I'd say this is a "no brainer" unless that is, you are attracted to the "bad boy" with who it keeps getting rocky, and the new guy is just boring, then that is up to you and it's something us men just don't get.

Answer 9

follow ur heart, your ex still love you, and i think he is willing to change and to work things out, why dont you talk abt things you like and dislike with him, work it out girl,for the sake of the five years,you wouldnt stay with him that long if you werent insanly in love with him, ofcourse the new one will treat you as perfect as it can be,but thats how all relations starts,and then things MIGHT change, good luck

Answer 10

For me, I always move on, holding things back is not good idea, more stress and you wil doing the same thing over and over again. Its always a risk in anyways, but moving forward will create new begginings, lesson had been learned. A;lways trust your instincts.goodluck!