whats wrong with my child?

Question

ok well my child is a 12 year old girl but she acts like shes 5 like all the time.
these r her things.

1. angery
2. sad
3. throws fits ( every day)
4. hyper one minute and then down the next
5. very agressive
6. doesn't concentrate or lisen to people
7. won't sleep alone
8. ask someone to talk then gets mad at them for talking

so whats wrong with her

she will be in counsleing next month.

yes she sleeps with me in her room.

she is not an only child but i have thought that she might be bipolar because she seems like she has ADHD and depression.

now she is getting pissed off when people r talking and tells them to shut up and wants to stangle them if they don't and she wants to be a boy and the more she thinks about that the more mad she gets.

this has been like this since she was 5 or 6 years old more started in 3rd grade.

no she seems nothing but pissed off and no one not even herselve knows whe and it gets wore if she hears or sees anything about AD/HD plus all she wants to do is lock herselve in the bathroom and read
plz help

i think she may have ODD

Answer 1

my 9 yr old son is adhd. your daughters symptoms sounds like adhd.. you need to have her tested. when you get ready to go to the doctor tell her you are going for yourself and not her so you dont have any sceens till you get there and then the doctor can see for her/himself. If you live in missouri i can recomend a great doctor.

Answer 2

Have a look at this website www.fedup.com.au it's all about how food additives, preservatives, colours and natural food chemicals have change the behaviour of your child and give similar symptoms to ADHD / ADD.

Some things that food intolerence may cause are: Anxiety: Panic attacks, Depression, Self harm, Suicidal thoughts, actions Impaired memory: Vague or forgetful, Unable to concentrate, Won't persevere, Unmotivated, Disorganised, Easily distracted, Difficulty reading and writing Speech: Loud voice (no volume control), Speech hard to understand, Speech delay, Selective mutism, Stuttering, Repetitive noises, Talks too much (empty chatter) Coordination: Poor handwriting, Poor coordination, Frequent accidents Sleep: Difficulty falling asleep, Restless legs syndrome (RLS), Persistent night waking, Insomnia, Nightmares/night terrors/sleepwalking Mood: Mood swings, Premenstrual tension, Grizzly or unhappy, Cries easily or often, Irritable, Uncooperative Oppositional defiance: ODD, Loses temper, Argumentative, Refuses requests, Defies rules, Deliberately annoys others, Blames others for own mistakes, Touchy, easily annoyed, Angry, resentful Other behaviour: ADHD, ADD, Autism, Aspergers, Inattentive, easily bored, unmotivated, Restless, fidgety or overactive, Head banging, Fights with siblings, Difficulty making friends, Destructive, aggressive, Unreasonable, Demanding, never satisfied, Disruptive, Discipline is ineffective.

Answer 3

Your on the right track with counseling. But has she started her period yet? Is she being bullied at school? Did something change at home/school? If she doesn't want to sleep alone something might be scaring her. Whatever it is please make sure that you listen. It is hard and so frustrating but it will work. I'm glad for her sake that you are taking her for counseling. She even may be suffering from depression, and/or ADHD. And if she is suffering from the latter her doctor will tell you what's best for her. Don't be scared if she is given medication. We've all heard the horror stories but not everyone has bad side effects. Some children do well on medication. So good luck and keep us posted.

Answer 4

My 2nd oldest child is 12,shes doesn't get angry unless people annoy her while shes on the phone.She not really ever sad sometimes tired but not sad.Dear God a fit!My 7 year old daughter doesn't even do that everyday!!!My son with ADHD is always hyper until 9pm he is also very aggressive nor does he concentrator or listen to other people.He sleeps alone most of the time and that last one...wow...

SOUNDS LIKE SHES BECOMING A 4 LETTER WORD TEEN!!!

Answer 5

When did this start? Has it been ongoing for a long time? If so, ignore what I have to say here:

Sounds like she is PMS'ing and becoming a four letter word, more dreaded than all we have heard T-E-E-N! This being said, there is no excuse for rude behavior, or being disrespectful. You are the adult and you set the boundaries and the rules.

Ok, now if this is ongoing for a long time, then I think it sounds like she is ADD or ADHD, of course she would need a battery of testing to confirm that.

Either way, counseling is the best start for her, and for you. Don't be afraid to ask the counselor for helpful ways you can help her and yourself.

Best of luck to both of you.

Answer 6

Part of this may be purberty, she is at that age where she might start at any time and hormones are raging. Have her eat more banannas if she likes them. It does also sound like bipolar as well, but the counselor may be able to help you out much better than I can. But girls at this age do develope an additude that want quit. It really depends on if this has always been.

Answer 7

The counselor will have to answer that... but sounds mostly normal teenager behavior to me... some of it seems a bit extreme if its going on all the time - so maybe she has something going on - troubles with school, boy trouble, friend trouble, issues at home, etc...

and won't sleep alone would worry me a bit - who does she sleep with - you? Is she afraid of the dark or maybe lonely?

I can't be much help but hopefully she will talk to the counselor and see what's going through her mind... teenagers are hard.. and it doesn't really get better til they are like 25 :)

Answer 8

I'm pretty much the same way- besides the fits/sleeping thingy.
You have to remember back to middle school, when you watched "the movie". Don't mean to be personal, but has she had her period yet? SOme of my friends haven't yet, but they're very emotional/hormonal. Maybe instead of taking her to a counselor, you should be taking her to either a Dr. (pediatrician) or the pharmacy, to get prepared!

Answer 9

all but the sleeping with you sounds like hormones to me.
My 12 yr old daughter is going thru all that however she sleeps in her own room by herself. Counseling is not a bad idea however don't expect it to fix the problem if its hormones.
Wish you luck
Morgaine

Answer 10

We are going through similar confusion with our 10 year old - it's very hard to know what is "normal 10 year old behavior" and what should be seen as a red flag. Getting her counseling is a very smart thing to do - good for you!!!