I have been dating the most amazing man for just about 2 months. He is 7 years younger than me, but we both grew up in the same town, we have the same values and ideals, and we are in love. We've decided that we want to be married. He and I both are 'staying' with our respective parents while we get back on our feet. I feel a little overwhelmed...but I'm amazingly happy. I want to make sure our relationship stays as wonderful as it is now. He and I have talked about what we want out of marriage and life, and we both agree on pretty much everything. My question is whether 2 months is a realistic time frame to know you're with the person you should be with for the rest of your life. I feel it, he feels it...I just want to know how much we'll be judged for this decision.
2007-02-24 11:33:44 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The biggest mistake that people make on this isn't the time frame when they decide to commit it's the mind state at that time. People make decisions based on the people they are today but later find that as they develop spiritually, emotionally and as human beings a lot of their views change. Thus the person you fell in love with may not be the person you are looking at five or ten years down the road and neither are you. The key is for people to either be open to this growth or find someone who is pass the majority of their development. Good luck to you and your mate.
2007-02-24 11:51:57 · answer #1 · answered by Inquiring mind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask the question, then I'm fairly sure you already know the answer.
People have a funny way of judging other people for things they don't understand (2 month relationships fall into this category). If you really honestly believe that 2 months is enough time to absolutely 100% know that this person is the right one for you, then go for it. But giving a little more time won't hurt anyone. You mention that you feel a little overwhelmed, and that your both staying with your respective parents while you're getting back on your feet. I'd strongly suggest taking things one step at a time until you are both "on your feet" again, independantly, before you get married and continue with taking this relationship to the next step. If he loves you and you truly love him, waiting even just a few months longer won't change your feelings for each other.
Good luck.. I wish you the best!
2007-02-24 11:41:31 · answer #2 · answered by RONALD J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would wait at least 6 months minimum and you definatly need to move in together because the relationship gets different when u see eachother everyday for the better or for the worse i would say move in together and see how it turns out you will know if it is working listen to you heart for sure!!
2007-02-24 11:40:22 · answer #3 · answered by I LoVe ThE Oc fEr LiFe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Gotta give it the four season rule. Go one year. And I strongly suggest living together first.
2007-02-24 11:38:12 · answer #4 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for my point of view u are moving too fast i think u should wait a little longer before taking that decision
2007-02-24 11:40:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents got married in 3 months, and lived happily ever after. sometimes it's just right.
2007-02-24 11:39:21 · answer #6 · answered by Forrest Ashley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only time will tell.
2007-02-24 11:38:23 · answer #7 · answered by Infinite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cares what other people think? if it feels right for you, then it shouldnt matter what people are saying.
2007-02-24 11:41:11 · answer #8 · answered by tot tot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2007-02-24 11:41:10 · answer #9 · answered by MrS.WilSoN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2007-02-24 11:36:51 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Tingting♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋