they have been goin on for about 2 weeks now, and he will start crying in his sleep so i will wake him up to tell him everything is ok, then he wants 2 come sleep with me, hes 3 and he has had a very tramatic life ((it was pretty bad 4 the both of us)) im 14, but he just keeps saying that he wants to stay with me and he refuses 2 speak about the dreams, how do i help him??
2007-02-24 11:27:24 · 12 answers · asked by koi 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
well of course my little brother nos the dream catcher story like the bac of his hand cuz we r native american
2007-02-24 13:07:12 · update #1
Don't push him to speak about his dreams.
I assume from your last post that your brother is also not living at home anymore?
Get a child psychologist for your brother and yourself....the person taking care of you right now can find one for you for free.
A 3 year old can't express a lot of detail about dreams. Just be caring and gentle to your brother, and try to find an adult who can help get professional help for you guys.
Good luck.
2007-02-24 11:32:02 · answer #1 · answered by gg 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a lot just by being there for him. More than likely, the "bad" stuff is creeping into his dreams, and it is bringing back all of the fear from the time for him. Keep asking him about the dreams, telling him that talking to someone helps get them out. Maybe also tell him that you want to help him fight the bad dreams, and the way to do it is to tell you what they are about so you can dream the same thing and come in to help him.
What my sister did for her youngest is when he was small, she bought a "dream catcher", and hung it on the wall of his bedroom right by his bed. She told him that with the dream catcher there on the wall, it would catch all of the bad dreams before they got to him, and it would only allow the good dreams through. It took a night or two, but it worked.
Just keep offering him some support, and if it is possible, find him someone to offer counceling. If there was some trauma in his life, he is not dealing with it, but only keeping it inside. He will grow with it, and it will eat him up. He needs someone to help him. Keep offering him all of your support and love, and find him some other help.
Good luck!!
2007-02-24 20:47:10 · answer #2 · answered by volleyballchick (cowards block) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter had what the dr called "night terrors" She'd be having a really bad dream and start crying or screaming, sometimes it took several minutes to wake her up from it. She couldn't tell us what it was about--ever. The doctor prescribed a very mild sedative to get her into deeper sleep, it worked really well. You've gotta talk to someone about this and see what the best course of action is. Does he have a special stuffed toy to sleep with, a "sleep buddy" to watch over him when he's sleeping? You could try that. Good luck.
2007-02-24 19:43:08 · answer #3 · answered by Jeff D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your past, and your brother's experience.
Let him sleep with you, he's still very young. While you are playing with him one day, when he's doing okay, that would be a good time to talk about dreams. Tell him you have a scary dream, but don't make it too scary because you're really only trying to make him talk to you about his. He may feel safe enough to share with you while playing. Colouring is good for this, and using building blocks or cars.
As long as he's got you, he'll be okay.
2007-02-24 19:37:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can maybe letting him sleep in your room for a whole night or sleep in his room. Try urging him to tell you his dreams because maybe his conscience is trying to tell him something or maybe he needs more good and happy times in his life. Try telling him how fortunate you all are. Tell him bed time stories with happy endings (if he is still that young of an age). Give him something happy and good to look forward to each day. Either he should tell you when he's ready, or he doesn't want to tell for some reason. Try to keep positive and keep asking questions.
2007-02-24 19:35:54 · answer #5 · answered by ydoyoucare 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as soon you hear him you wake him up next time.try to reward him if he would talk to you let him sleep next to you for few days see if he has them.this kid is not supose to have nightmare at 3 he should be dreaming about angels..try to find out what happened to him during the day.
2007-02-24 19:41:46 · answer #6 · answered by Dove4ever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can help your little brother by telling the adults in your life that you trust about his nightmares, and maybe you can confide in someone too about whats troubling you.
2007-02-24 19:38:41 · answer #7 · answered by peachiepie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him some music to sleep to it may keep him calm or make sure nothing traumatic happens in the daytime because most dreams have to do with what happened earlier.
2007-02-24 20:35:39 · answer #8 · answered by superstar_jade12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one thing you can do is before bed time talk to him about positive thing.Make up a funny story.Or read a story that he might like.Another thing that helps is have a routine before bed brush your teeth with him comb your hair.
2007-02-24 20:04:50 · answer #9 · answered by cynomynG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What works for me is monster spray [air freshener]
2007-02-24 20:00:04 · answer #10 · answered by melissa n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋