We have had it all.. the tears, the arguments, the break ups the make ups the cheats.
So a couple of months back we had constant arguments maybe due to us seeing each other too much and my suggestion of having some space didnt help. So not knowing what to do he broke up with me twice. Once for 16 hours. Saying how sorry he is we got back, then we broke up for a week. He said he wanted me to be happy and he didnt think i could be happy with him, even though he loved me, he thought it was better that way for me to find someone else. Then we got back, he said he will always be in love with me and wanted to be the one to make me happy and fix our relationship. Well now its better we actually listen to each other more, we dont really argue now, i know we both are very different and all. Sometimes we want different things and its hard to agree, but in the end we choose each other.
Is it meant to get better now?
Does everyone go through this at first?
2007-02-24 10:51:24 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you've only been together for 8 months...and you've already experienced this much turbulence "constant arguments, 2x break up, tears, the cheats...," I think the prognosis for present and future happiness with this person is poor, especially since one or both of you have cheated, assuming you agreed to exclusivity. Who can say whether it will "get better now." That's up to the two of you. In the early stages of a relationship, if it isn't mostly copacetic now, it's only going to get worse. No, I don't think everyone goes through the kind of contention you've described. So unless you enjoy being on an emotional rollercoaster, I would think twice about putting all of my eggs in his basket. If he has told you that he doesn't think you could be happy with him, I would take him at his word. This is his way of letting you know that he is not someone you can count on, and to keep your expectations low.
I wouldn't invest any more emotional, physical, and spiritual energy in this relationship. I'd cut my losses now and move on.
The first 8 months should be much more smooth sailing than you've described, in a healthy relationship. Look at it this way,
everything you have learned about this man up until now, is a blueprint for the future. As I said, if you like a stormy, tempestuous relationship, it sounds like he's your guy.
2007-02-24 11:14:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a lot of communication and understanding to keep a relationship alive. it is more important than sex. sex is natural to do in a relationship. you both need to do what each other likes. take turns in that. it seems he does love you and wants you.
he may just being sure about how you really feel about him. and yes everyone goes through the arguments, break ups sometimes and the not understanding one another at first. you have 8 months with him and in that time you should both know if you want and love each other enough to stay together.
2007-02-24 10:59:15 · answer #2 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes we choose eachother as the devil we know rather than the devil we dont - complacancy and living in that comfort zone - with all the breaking up etc thats quite a lot to pack into a new realtionship, but just take things easy - and at least dont get married in haste as then you wil both be stuck in a mess and it will be harder to get out of.....just keep going as you are - no rush, you two should be eachothers equal, and eachothers bestfriend, and trustworthy enough to not have to explain yourself or feel undermined etc etc good luck with it all - at the end of the day only you know if it will work - its your instinct and how you feel inside.
2007-02-24 10:59:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like a very unhealthy relationship.
I just got out of one of those and it was really hard to do but I realized it was for the best.
I think it would be best if you had a clean break from him. I would also suggest taking some time off from guys completely.
2007-02-24 10:58:05 · answer #4 · answered by huskerslord 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of couples do,but I am not god I cannot tell you if it will lst,but it is good that he wants to work things out,maybe it took all those arguments and disagreements to make you two better,so you never know,you'll just have to wait it out to see what's headed for you two.Good luck
2007-02-24 11:04:42 · answer #5 · answered by TH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ill say yeah, it is mostlikely to last a while, since it seems you guys are really in love.. So just try to make stuff better and forget about past.
2007-02-24 10:55:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, the relationship is not stable. You already have doubts and want to know if it will get better. Seek premarital counseling and see if the relationship is for real.
2007-02-24 11:02:10 · answer #7 · answered by MissRoyalT 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No good luck, id say stop wasting your time.....
2007-02-24 10:54:33 · answer #8 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yup..... especially if you have having sex..... if you had waited you probably would have been married by now.. sorry
2007-02-24 10:55:04 · answer #9 · answered by nmilover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋