My girlfriend and I haven't been able to be with each other eight months now. Circumstances have me currently on the eastcoast and her back home in California. When we first had to deal with the seperation we started having phonesex. Sometimes more than once or twice a day. It's been almost two weeks now and she seems to have a reason on why we can't. I have been having other issues and I need this connection with her. Any suggestions
2007-02-24 10:42:49 · 24 answers · asked by mtjs06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like she has moved on
2007-02-24 10:46:03 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Military??? I am and i have the same problem. Long distance relationships can be a pain in the a**. I would talk to her more serious, let her know what you really want. Girls think that for us being far away we gonna do something stupid like go look for another girl or stuff like that. Let her feel confident about you. Don't make her feel like you are all far away, make her feel that she's there. Right next to you. Make her feel loved. Distance is not a matter, if you all really love each other nothing will bring down that relationship. Communicate more, talk about those little problems and correct them. There is nothing that matters more in a relationship than the communication and of course the love between each other. Good luck.
2007-02-24 10:59:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you won't like this... this is a good example of not having pre marital sex..... aside from disease and stuff.... you don't need her..... and maybe that is the problem. if someone feels needed, they run away. if she is your "girlfriend" seems like you don't know each other very well and you are not honest with each other. Another reason not to have sex. I was a rocknroll hippie sex drugs and rock and roll...... and now, well, I wish I had been much more discrete and saved myself for marriage for now i am 57 alone and well....... sex messes everything up and the passion leaves quickly anyway........ if you NEED her, she will not be there. Ask yourself anything. You are really the only one who knows anything....... people run from needy people...... phonesex?????? oh how fun.... anyway, I would say look for G-d and stop looking to satisfy your needs only carnally. sorry,
2007-02-24 10:50:03 · answer #3 · answered by nmilover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this is circling the drain. Ask her WHY. How much longer is the long distance relationship going to continue? Perhaps you need to schedule a weekend out west o see her and then you can best judge her reactions and see where you truly stand.
She has the answers, and you need to figure them out. Either ask her, see her or make a decision to move on. Don''t let the situation continue as it will only further deteriorate with unanswered questions, jealousy and unfulfilled sexual energy.
2007-02-24 10:49:37 · answer #4 · answered by njsnowrider 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry this answer may suck. i've always told my boyfriend if we can't be together for awhile then we should just break up. luckily we both own houses in the same town. if you really love someone then you would want them to be happy. even if its with someone else. obviously your not happy and your making each other miserable by doing this. i'd rather be friends forever with someone i love than make them miserable. you seem like you just need someone and its convenient to stay with them. look. anyone can find anybody to make them happy. but to love someone you should be able to love them the rest of your life. even if you can't be together. i'd rather be friends with some people than to hold anything against them or hate them because of what "might" have happened or because i'm lonely. break it off and tell her you'll always love her and be friends for life but relationships are supposed to come naturally and it just not isn't happening. i wish you the best. you seem like a very dedicated person and you will find the right one.
2007-02-24 10:50:43 · answer #5 · answered by anonymous 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it creative and different, not the same old thing. Go visit her too I know it's tough with how much money plane tickets are but try anyways.. Just be yourself but tweak things whether it be in person, on the phone, or online. Tweak it enough to have her wanting more and wondering different and new things about you. Goodluck man.
2007-02-24 10:47:16 · answer #6 · answered by evolutiondamngood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
damn i feel u a whole lot im going thru tha same drama but fot me its been since Aug 19, 2006 since i been with my man and yeal we was getting a lil crazy ova tha phone with tha phonesex and all but that wasnt good enough so i had 2 get out and start having fun
i mean i had to date other guys and he was okay with it but i hope things b cool
2007-02-24 10:55:35 · answer #7 · answered by ~Tranell~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It starts getting a little old.. and weird, or uncomfortable. Have you tried telling her how much that means to you? I've learned the best way to deal with a problem with a significant other is to just TALK to each other. You won't know why she doesn't want to participate unless you ask her and talk to her about it.. so please do so!
2007-02-24 10:46:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distant relations usually don't work, people need human contact. If you were having that much phone sex she might have gotten to the point where she needed more than a phone to put in her hand.
2007-02-24 10:46:39 · answer #9 · answered by 400lbtwins 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you are coming to visit. If she seems happy buy a ticket and pack your bags. If not then she has moved on. Either way at least you will have an answer.
2007-02-24 10:49:20 · answer #10 · answered by Inquiring mind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe you guys should start talking and stop having so much phone sex...after so many times and that being the only connection..then that really is the only connection left....TALK to her...tell her these things...shes probably starting to get doubtful that there is a future between you two anymore...
2007-02-24 10:49:09 · answer #11 · answered by tot tot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋