I was out with several people. They had all ran away somewhere else and I was alone with a guy. He was touchy feely but I didn't mind because he was drunk. He stopped at this area and told me that he needed to rest. He told me to sit next to him. He told me to be infront of him and he put his hand underneath my shirt and was grabbing my chest. In my mind I didn't want him to but I was so shocked. Then he asked if he could kiss me i didn't know what to say so i said yes. He stuck his tongue in my mouth and suddenly my mind caught up wit me and I backed away and said no stop.
He stopped after a little while when I started walking away and told him I was gonna go catch up with everyone else to go eat. and he told me he had something for me to eat meaning (oral)
I calmly said no. I left in a hurry and felt upset. I started crying quite hard after 40 minutes from the incident. I feel low now, sad, disgusted with myself and I feel it's my fault because i had said yes at that time.
2007-02-24 10:20:04 · 8 answers · asked by curiousperson 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Do not be sad, just learn from this experience. You cannot go back in time and fix it, just use it to better yourself. Be thankful it was just a kiss. And avoid this loser whenever you can.
2007-02-24 10:26:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you were put in a situation in which you didn't know what to do. I think deep down inside you knew the best thing to do was to get up and walk away...better yet rush away, but maybe you were afraid for some reason.. But its ok...now you know. IT happened and its over. The next time you are put in a situation like that, simply be strong and try to get away as quickly as possible, better yet try not to be alone again with someone your not comfortable with. Dont feel bad because you learned something. That there are guys out there that are absolutly disgusting and have no respect for themselves. He is the disgusting one. Just know you have learned a lesson from all of this nad be thankful he wasn't forceful and worst could of happened.
2007-02-24 10:28:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people say 'yes' when they don't know what to say. Perhaps you were a bit disoriented and confused, and that's why you didn't know what to say at first.
But unless you are happily married or have a loving fiance, I really don't see why are you making such a big fuss about a kiss. You've already dealt with the kiss when you said 'no' to the guy and walked away from him. And there isn't much else you can do.
2007-02-24 10:34:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't know what to tell you:
1. You let yourself be alone with a DRUNK GUY
2. You let the DRUNK GUY kiss you
3. Now you feel bad that the DRUNK GUY kissed you.
Hey, that's life. You make really stupid mistakes and you learn from them. Don't mention the incident to him if he doesn't ask. IF he asks about something happening between you guys, if you guys are pretty cool normally, tell him, but keep it humorous. Don't beat yourself up so much. Just don't do it again.
2007-02-24 10:28:05 · answer #4 · answered by gravytrain036 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like maybe you had a few drinks, too, although you didn't actually say it. When a person drinks, inhibitions decrease, reaction time slows, and a whole mess of other things. There are several things you can do at this time. You can refrain from drinking when you are out with "several people".
You can ask someone to watch over you to keep out of that situation of being paired off when you really don't want to. Personally, if they all ran off and left you there, I wouldn't be going out with them anymore.
2007-02-24 10:29:36 · answer #5 · answered by bettyboop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a situation like that. You will get over it soon. And you will learn from that scenario. Don't put yourself in a potentially dangerous situation like that again. Prevention is the best cure. And stop blaming yourself. Like you said you were in shock, you never had that situation before and you reacted the best you could. It's not your fault. Learn from it. And trust your gut. Your gut probably felt uncomfortable before he even tried to touch you. It's okay to be rude sometimes.
2007-02-24 10:33:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not your fault, hon. In fact, it sounds like, considering the circumstances, you kept yourself together pretty well. The guy's a jerk without any help from you. Chalk it up to experience and move on.
2007-02-24 10:32:09 · answer #7 · answered by katbyrd41 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry about it. its ok its over now. i have been in situations like taht. now you have the strength to stand up to people and realize to say no. this is how you learn, like "learn from your mistakes". you cant go back and change it but now you will no and just talk to a good friend and im sure they will tell you the same thing. good luck !
2007-02-24 10:25:26 · answer #8 · answered by girl ! 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋