what could it mean if after 8 months together a guy still will not introduce you to his family or close friends (except roommates)? He's met all my family and friends and he seems to like them but makes excuses when I ask to meet his. What's up with that?
2007-02-24 10:14:12 · 22 answers · asked by tara b 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I basically sleep at his place every night...upon his request and we aren't intimate all that often. So I don't know what his deal is.
2007-02-24 10:26:47 · update #1
He is 22, not married, I promise. I am at his apartment constantly.
2007-02-24 10:31:54 · update #2
Maybe he is ashamed by his family.
2007-02-24 10:20:48 · answer #1 · answered by Z 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Could be alot of reasons, he may not be that close to his family like you are. He also may not have parents or be embarrassed of his parents. If those arent the reasons then he may be using you for something else. Because if a man is looking to be with you for a long time he should have definitely introduced you to his parents. But some men dont like people in there parents.
2007-02-24 18:22:38 · answer #2 · answered by keisha B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he does not want to take it seriously. Why don't you tell him why he has not done that, if he does not want to, then you deserve better. I think it's a waste of time when someone is not in the same level as you and you keep waiting until he feels it's the right time. A lot of women make this mistake, you either leave or you keep on waiting. When you could be waisting your time, there might be another guy who would actually like you to meet his parents.
2007-02-24 18:22:32 · answer #3 · answered by Questions 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's just not ready for you to meet them because he's thinking in the back of his mind "ohmigosh this is getting alittle too serious"And it kinda sounds like your bf is scared of commitment and you asking to see his closest friends and family makes him feel your taking his independence away.... Just be patience he'll come around when he's ready he'll be the one to tell you. So dont push him cause you might lose him.....
Mate I dont think he's ashamed of you cause if he was he wouldnt of introduced you to his room mates so cmon be realisitic! Hes just not ready for you to meet his parents yet thats all it is. Cause to him meeting his is like making a commitment which hes not ready for at the mo. Its only been 8 months mate give him time you've got all the time in the world.
Or maybe he had a bad relationship b4 you and he wants to take it slow with you yknw he doesnt want it to go wrong yknw so....
Patience is a virtue
2007-02-24 18:22:57 · answer #4 · answered by ¸¸.•*´`*♥ Selah 21 ¸¸.•*´`*♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are togeather 8 months and you don't know why, there is a communication problem. May be a cultural thing but since you are making an issue of it now it is a statement to his family and you that you are "the one". But you're not are you?
2007-02-24 18:32:23 · answer #5 · answered by mpento 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A male feels that when you are introduced to his family and friends, it is getting very serious between you two. I guess when he does introduce you, he really likes you and wants the relationship to go further than what it is now.
2007-02-24 18:21:16 · answer #6 · answered by James K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with him and ask why he won't take you home to meet the family. Ask him if it's you or his family. Tell him he has nothing to hide from you, that really care about him, that's why you introduced him, and you really want to meet his family.
2007-02-24 18:18:58 · answer #7 · answered by Sara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe his family doesn't like you and he is doing it so you won't be hurt. Or he is ashamed of you?. Maybe he doesn't have any manners and doesn't know better. SO just go up to him and ask why you can't meet his family? And maybe he will tell you why? Or just maybe he is adopted and doesn't have a family.
2007-02-24 18:21:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, and you sound very sweet, he's not PROUD of you. If he was, he'd introduce you to everyone that he knows and let everyone know that "this is MY girl". Dump him and move on!! Good luck and NEVER settle for 2nd best.
2007-02-24 18:24:08 · answer #9 · answered by tdoh2o4u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry --- I realize this may hurt, but you asked for the truth.
He is either ashamed of you
or ashamed of them (who they are, how they act, or where they live --- or perhaps worst of all --- they have hurt him in a way that makes him afraid for you).
2007-02-24 18:24:50 · answer #10 · answered by scottyusa1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesnt see you as the real deal. if he was serious then he would make the effort to make sure you have a relationship with his fam.
men are big on that, if they want you to meet them then you know they are serious....
2007-02-24 18:17:07 · answer #11 · answered by tot tot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋