Is it okay to live together if you're a Christian?

Question

cohabitate, shack up, live in sin, set up housekeeping or any other euphemism meaning to have sex before marriage?

Oh, I left out fornicate. Is it okay to fornicate if you're a Christian and in love so it's meaningful to you?

To crimthann: I just asked for opinions. You have no right to assume I have rejected "the answer". You certainly are quick to judge others.

Answer 1

Well, it seems to me, that you already know the answer and have rejected it.

The Bible clearly states marriage first then sex. Adam and Eve could be considered co habitation, unless you figure it was God who created them for one another and I believe you cannot get a better pastor than God himself.

After Adam and Eve the father gave into marriage and that could be considered co-habitation. But, the priestly order was not created until much later.

Now that the priestly order has been established and legal ones as well we are called to use them instead of acting on our own selfish designs.

If, in the extreme circumstance, you are without either I would say that it is allowable. Like you were flying to your wedding and the plane went down and well you get the idea.

Jon_d_ayer is wrong. Matthew 24:38
For in the days before the flood, people were eating and drinking, marrying and giving in marriage, up to the day Noah entered the ark. (Key words they were giving in marriage)

Genesis 29:26
Laban replied, "It is not our custom here to give the younger daughter in marriage before the older one.
(marriage here states custom)

Deuteronomy 22:13
[ Marriage Violations ] If a man takes a wife and,... (man does it and God I believe blesses it and holds us to it)

Matthew 19:5-7 (New International Version)
New International Version (NIV)
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5and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'[a]? 6So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."

7"Why then," they asked, "did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?"

This would seemingly support Jon, but notice they join and God supports it. Also notice the mention of a certificate of divorce. This alludes to rules and procedures in marriage.

I confess I could find no mention of the priestly function in this, but I do believe that they had a role in it as the ministers of today do.

Answer 2

Yes I think it is ok. I am a Christian and I have had sex before marriage and I have also lived with a partner before and I did not feel like I was betraying God. I was supported my fellow members of my church as they knew that we were commited to each other. My parents and my family are devout Chrisitians and they have supported me and not judged me even though I had sex out of wedlock and at a young age.

Yes the bible does go against sex before marriage, but as long as you are comfortable with it then it should be fine, if you feel guilty or uncomfortable then don't do it.

I hope this has helped you

Answer 3

In the days of the prophets in the bible, the people of Isreal, including the leaders, would seek after the will of God in order to find the best path to take during some event that the nation was going through. They would ask the prophet of God to go and inquire of God for them. The funny thing is, is that if the prophet came back with a message contrary to what they really wanted to do, then they would throw the prophet into prison for prophecying "bad things". So after that disclaimer, the answer to your query is no, absolutely not.

Answer 4

People like to think they are in charge of marriage. They aren't, God is.

Marriage does not start with a ceremony, marriage starts with God's blessing. Marriage does not end when people stop seeing each other. Marriage ends when God tells you it is over.

If two people are joined by anything less than God' love it is not a marriage. It does not matter how many ceremonies you have, how many licenses you have, how "hallowed" the ground you stood on during a ceremony is.

You can only be married by God and divorced by God. Everything else is shacking up.

If God leads you into a relationship you are married. If he doesn't you aren't. No ceremonies, no license, just God.

God can choose to bring you together and you can choose to abide by tradition and ceremony, but, the tradition and ceremony is mankind's invention, not God's.

Why people think they are in charge of marriage I have no clue.

PS:

No, I am not wrong, marriage is of the will of God and not of the will of man. God creates a marriage which is why adultery is forbidden in the commandments. People just like to think they are God and have control over the things of God.

Adam and Eve were married by God. God is real. Get over it.

Also: The Greek word pornia (I believe) was translated into the word fornication in the New Testament. Pornia is the root word for Pornography and it means "worship prostitution" or "temple prostitution" so everywhere in the New Testament it says anything about fornication you can translate into "do not have sex in church". Anyone can start researching this by using a good dictionary and a Greek Bible translation on the web.

That should really get the "I am God" people upset.

As for "being honest", well you are either under the Grace of God and living in his word written on your heart by the Holy Spirit or you are living under mans law. You choose your master.

"Many people" just like to think they are as good as God, can stand in judgment as God and can control the things of God. I am sure they will have their rewards.

Answer 5

I don't think it's wrong to live together if that's all you are going to do. Fornicating is just as wrong now as it's ever been. The bible says it's better to just get married if you must have sex with your partner.

Answer 6

While marriages throughout most of biblical history involve some type of public ceremony (and celebration), such a ceremony is not required for a biblical marriage to have taken place. In the case of Isaac and Rebekah and others, no ceremony is recorded (Genesis 24:67). But a common ingredient between common-law marriage and the one involving a ceremony is a public expressed intent to be married. Two people living together without that expressed intent does not constitute a common-law marriage, just cohabitation. Isaac and Rebekah did not just begin living together, there was a clear expression of intent that their union be of a permanent nature (marriage). Another common ingredient between common-law marriage and the one involving a ceremony and license is its legal standing. In order for a common-law marriage to be dissolved, a legal divorce must be pursued. (Again, in God’s original intent for marriage, there should be no divorce.) Another ingredient in these biblical marriages that did not involve a public ceremony as compared to those that did is that there was no sexual activity prior to their marriage, no cohabiting.



From a biblical perspective, there are a few issues that bothers me about a common-law marriage. Two of the biblical purposes of marriage are to (1) use the union to serve Christ as a new unit and (2) to represent the greater reality of the union between Christ and His church. Historically, common-law marriage came into being because there were small villages in England where a church official or a government official was not able to travel to on a regular basis. Therefore, if a couple desired to get married, they could legally do so without the presence of either a church official or government official. But still there would be the component of a public declaration of their intent to marry before cohabiting. During World War II, there were common-law marriages that took place in Japanese prison camps between prisoners by a similar public declaration of intent. But for a Christian, under normal circumstances, a public ceremony in a church enables them to begin their union before family and friends with a testimony of their intent to use their marriage to serve Christ and with a public witness of salvation from sin that is available through Christ.



Secondly, as the Bible states that a Christian is to “provide things honest in the sight of all men” (2 Corinthians 8:21; Romans 12:17), it is important that their marriage do the same. Common-law marriage has a connotation in most people’s eyes as being less-than-honorable (under normal circumstances...not being in a prison camp, etc.). It should be a Christian’s desire to live above reproach so that Christ can be honored in all that he/she does (1 Corinthians 10:31). For this reason, common-law marriage (under normal circumstances) falls short of honoring Christ; and a public, church ceremony with a good testimony for Christ and a good presentation of the gospel is to be preferred.

Answer 7

You should maybe read Mark 10:6-9.
You would be surprised to know you are already married in the eyes of God. If you are tangoing, you are.

Answer 8

No, the Bible teaches that people should be married.
A covenant of love to one another.

Answer 9

No it's not there is no commitment there nothing meaningful and solid.

Answer 10

A Christian? that would be one person, and to not be together would not be living.

if you were to try to live apart from yourself would result in your demise.