Im 18 and my gf is 17! We have been going strong for about a year now and i am going to bootcamp June 4th 2007. She i ask her before or after bootcamp? If we get engaged now weould it be ok to wait 3 year to get married?
2007-02-24 10:08:56 · 22 answers · asked by KillerCows 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Why don't you just wait till the wedding day gets closer... wait 2 years.
My boyfriend and I have been together for a year. We're not going to get married till we're done with college. That will be in a couple years or so. We find it more realistic to get engaged as the wedding day gets closer. Why would you start planning for a wedding that's going to happen in 3 years?!
And actually, ANYTHING can happen in 3 years. You 2 are still so young. You 2 can still break-up. You never know!! Don't move so quickly.
2007-02-24 10:12:03 · answer #1 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't propose to a 17 year old girl EVER! She's not even legally old enough to marry. She's definitely not old enough to make the right decision, and you might think you are now but it's quite possible that after 10 years of marriage you'll decide you made a mistake...
If you're going away for 3 years and you're worried about the relationship ending, you don't have to propose. Just tell her how you feel about her and how you won't forget her and how much you still want to be with her when you come back. You can bridge the time gap without making a premature marriage proposal!
You need to take your time before making a big jump like that. It's not even necessary to ask her to marry you for you to stay together, if she loves you enough to marry you she should love you enough to be there when you come back whether or not you're engaged. Don't let the fact that you're leaving push you into making a huge decision that you wouldn't have made otherwise.
2007-02-24 18:14:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'd wait to propose until after bootcamp, for several reasons.
1. she is not yet 18, even though you can marry with parents permission might as well wait until she's 18.
2. you are going into boot camp soon. your life WILL CHANGE and so will you attitude when you graduate boot camp. (I am not saying this lightly, I was in the Navy from 1994-1998 and it DOES change you!).
3. who's to say if you do get engaged before entering boot camp that you or her will not change your minds during your time in boot camp?
I personally have seen too many relationships fail when the person is in boot camp or school to say "go ahead get engaged now and wait a few years for marriage".
Wait until you are out of boot camp before proposing.
2007-02-25 10:38:14 · answer #3 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait. Things are going to change over the next few years for you both, especially with you going away to the military. If you're not planning to marry for another 3 years (which is a good idea), what's the rush in proposing? A ring wont hold things together until you get back. Love can though. Good luck.
2007-02-24 18:15:08 · answer #4 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally think a year is too early to consider marriage, especially at your age. It is probably in your best interest to wait 3 years to get married - but why drag an engagement on that long? How about just get engaged to be engaged? In any case, you need to do what feels right for you and what works best for you and your girlfriend as a couple.
2007-02-24 18:12:42 · answer #5 · answered by Susan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you realize that your life is over, it's time to propose. But seriously, you're too young, and the both of you will have your personality change SOOO much that a marriage will be short lived. You don't really need to be in a warzone dodging bullets while your wife is back home begging for divorce because she married too young. Focus on being a soldier, young man, get the job done, come home and start a life. Then call your old girlfriend to see if there's anything there.
2007-02-24 18:22:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Three years is a really long engagement, and it might cause problems if she gets impatient and wants to get married sooner. You're still very young, and one year isn't a very long time. I would suggest just waiting until after boot camp. See how your relationship survives the changes of graduating from high school, going to college and boot camp, and all the other big things going on in your life at this time. There's no harm in waiting to see what happens.
Good luck!
2007-02-24 18:12:56 · answer #7 · answered by Pookie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are crazy, your 18. i got married at 30. At 18, I was out having fun. partying with friends, vacationing and enjoying my new car. You need to LIVE LARGE! So what your going to bootcamp, go and have fun. Why not propose in 3 yrs?
2007-02-24 18:14:52 · answer #8 · answered by Mammamia3 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if you have to ask everyone else then sounds like your not tooo sure....do your own thing if you feel it do it if not wait until you get back from boot camp and all that stuff and then propose that way if something happens then you didnt make a promise you didnt keepl.....good luck and good luck in the military
2007-02-24 18:16:48 · answer #9 · answered by LUCKYGIRL 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your engagement can be as long as you want! Either way before or after would be cure. Before because you don't want to lose her when you're gone.....or after to let her know that she's all you could think about and now you know you want to spend the rest of your life with her. But think about it for a bit before doing anything....you are a little young
2007-02-24 18:12:01 · answer #10 · answered by scootkat84 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋