I lied to my boyfriend about cheating, then finally everything came out, I want to show him that I want him back and will never do it again, but he tells me he needs time and me to prove myself, should I give him space and leave him alone for a while, or keep trying and let him know how sorry I am and how much I care.?
2007-02-24 10:04:28 · 22 answers · asked by Kristin Faye 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I regret it all, but the lying is what hurt him the most....
2007-02-24 10:13:41 · update #1
Well, first off, you shouldn't have cheated. But, I guess everyone makes mistakes and we all at some point in life deserve a second chance. But, I'm still not condoning cheating. I'm just saying. Anyway, he wants you to prove yourself to him...well, to me that sounds like he wants to give you another chance but you have to realize the big mistake you made first. But don't become such a bug-a-boo...like, there's a limit to showing him and telling him you want him back. And that limit is very crucial because when you do too much, he might just get fed up and say 'Screw you!' Get it? It's kind of like doing two opposite things at once. For instance, like when your at the freethrow line in basketball...the key is to concentrate and relax. How that works, I don't know. But it does. So try to prove yourself, but at the same time know when the "space" part is needed. If you get another chance, dont screw it up.
2007-02-24 10:21:03 · answer #1 · answered by bL@(kR0s3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him space but keep proving your love to him, just by holding his hand when you go out, being physically loving- public affection , -
but are you really sure you want to be with him - if you give him space and dont see him have a think about why you cheated - what was the reason behind it - are you really guilty because you truely love this guy and fancy him rotten and regret what happened horrendously or are you riding on the guilt because you got found out after lying and feel bad for his feelings - and how it has affected him and possibly ''family and friends' of his.....
good luck - but really have a good think and see also if you can both work things out and have trust again - !
2007-02-24 10:12:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you feel there is still hope and you have true desire to do so then I dont see any reason why not to, ya know. Also as long as he is respecting you and wants it to, I mean dont make a fool out of yourself or let him disrespect you, now dont get me wrong though you cant be rediculous about it all relationships go thru some degree of disrespect wether its intentional or not and if you didnt work thru it when you feel its worth it you would never keep any relationship going. Sometimes it takes a while for either of of the parties involved to realize its worth it to them to change or act right, good luck Kim
2007-02-24 10:09:07 · answer #3 · answered by KIMBUR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cheated on your boyfriend, and it's the lying you regret more than anything...?
Give him his space; and if he leaves you, you deserve it....unless he cheated on or was abusive to you first, in which case you are being a doormat by sticking around.
2007-02-24 10:10:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made your bed ow lie in it if you really loved him you would not have cheated on him and that is the bottom line give him space the reason that you won't leave him alone is your afraid he is gonna find someone else. You blew it..
2007-02-24 10:08:35 · answer #5 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
eh. If you regret lying more than anything, I assume that means you regret lying more than you regret cheating.
I don't get it. You cheat, it means some part of you wanted to. Leave him be. I'm cheating my *** off and I fully intend on leaving my husband. No point pretending. I don't care, and neither do you.
2007-02-24 10:07:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the space he needs. Don't bug him. He's probably trying to sort things out by getting laid. He will come back if he doesn't find some other girl that turns his crank better than you.
2007-02-24 10:08:26 · answer #7 · answered by morahastits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him so space. But don't revolve your life around him. You need to live for yourself as well. You don't need to answer to anyone but yourself. If you are truely sorry, he will know in time. So just space should work for now. Good luck hun!
2007-02-24 10:07:53 · answer #8 · answered by LauraLynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some space. If it's reall meant to be he'll come back! Let him think and clear his head. from time to time do little sweet things to show you him care but dont push it, you dont want to seem desperate!
2007-02-24 10:08:48 · answer #9 · answered by keisha B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of it from your perspective. If he had told you he cheated on you, how would you feel? I'm not blaming you because we all make mistakes but I would just give him a while to cool down and once you think, he might be ready just tell him how you feel. (And crying when you tell him this never hurts either.)
2007-02-24 10:08:39 · answer #10 · answered by Falling2Rust 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋