Selfharmers?

Question

Why do you selfharm? What have you been pushed to to do this to yourself?

Answer 1

I wasn't going to answer this question, but having read what some ignorant people have said, I changed my mind. First of all I would just like to say self harmers have a mental problem - they are not wanting attention. People do self harm to cope with their lives, it doesn't mean they hate their selves - some people smoke, some people cut. They cut to feel relief - it's a fact that cutting does help the person feel in control for that moment. Self harm only helps for a while, then you become addicted. You forget how to cope without it, so you cut deeper to feel what you want. But after a while you can't feel the pain and cutting just becomes a pointless habbit. People who do self harm need help, so I think people on this should think before they type.

Answer 2

I'm pretty comfortable with this now so I'll try to answer some questions.
I used to do it to try and resolve emotions that built up from my lovely mental issues. I couldn't control anything else in my life so it was kind of nice to be able to control this(At least that's the reason I give it now. I didn't really think about it at the time). After a while, whenever you're emotionally challenged, it becomes the easy way out. Self-harm becomes the first thing you look to. Eventually, though, the worry that someone might find out and the confusion that it causes outweighed any good I thought it caused. I also got some help and support from my wonderful friends(whether they knew what was wrong or not).
No, I don't hate the world =P And the last thing I've ever wanted was attention. I did everything I could to keep anyone from knowing. Generally, that's not the case.
I don't understand it either. I don't think anyone ever will. It's something that's impulse-driven. You don't think 'Ok, I'm going to go hurt myself now'. You just do it. It's extremely hard to understand, especially if you've never been in that situation. Lord knows I didn't think I'd ever resort to that.
Cutting isn't the only form of self-harm either. Punching walls or anything hard has the same effect.
I've never thought my life wasn't worth living. That's a common misconception. Self-harm is a far cry from suicide.
Feel free to email me. I like spreading the word of what it's really about. If you still don't understand, try http://www.facetheissue.com/ .

Answer 3

Yes, generally speaking self-harmers DO NOT HARM THEMSELVES TO GET ATTENTION. I used to cut myself and pick at my skin and after many years of help realized I did it primarily for 2 reasons: to assuage a general free-floating anxiety I had and also if I was tremendously upset, crying, etc., cutting myself would help me to control that emotion. I did not know how to soothe myself into feeling better if something upset me, and I would dwell on what upset me to the degree that I would burst out into tears even at work. I have since learned some other ways to cope, but sometimes want to revert back to those old behaviors... It is hard. It is a behavior that is very misunderstood by those who do not do it...

Answer 4

Well, the main reason I do it is self-punishment. When I first started doing it, though, it was because I thought it didn't make sense that I could have so many wounds and scars on the inside without there being some trace of them on the outside. Somehow, it made me feel better to have visible scars. I don't cut in places that aren't easily concealed, though. I just wanted the scars to be there.

Answer 5

i was just gonna ask the same question!
I dont get it-how does a cut in your skin relieve emotional pain?
It makes no sense. Also leaves a ghastly scar. Why not just deal with whats going on inside and leave your poor body alone.

Answer 6

hey well some people believe that cutting or harming themselves is a way of forgettingabout other pains. so they use physical pain to overcome their emotional pain for the moment i think, ive never self harmed but ive had friends who did . mostly if you know anyone like this they mostly want to be loved. hope i helped!

Answer 7

Maybe they hate themselves... their emotions overcome them, and they feel like hurtin themselves.

Answer 8

i know this guy who cut off his ear cuz his dad didnt buy him a video game!!!self harmers hurt themselves because...well theres 3 resons 1:they want attention 2:they want someone to feel pity for them and then give em what they want (like in the case of my friend) 3: they think their life isnt worth living

Answer 9

i do it to help releive pent up emotions that i feel i can't talk about

Answer 10

some people do it cuz they hate life