What do you think?

Question

I just came back from a friends house, there was a bunch of us moms there, chit chatting, well the kids were off playing. The lady who owns the house has about 5 cabbage patch dolls from when she was a young girl and has kept them in perfect condition. She lets no one play with them, not even her two daughters, and they stay in her room on a stand. Well we were there one of the older kids went in and took the dolls and was playing with them with the other kids. The ladys child came and told her and she went and took them back, a few of the kids got upset, as most kids do when you take something from them, and their parents were mad that she took the dolls from them. She explained the situation, and they told her to let go. One reason she keeps them is because each was bought from a special person in her life, and they have passed on, so they have a lot of meaning to her. Do you think she should let go, or were these other parents wrong in making a fuss?

Answer 1

the other parents were wrong, a person has the right to keep special things without having to risk their destruction by children - kids have to learn that not everything is to share - would those parents have let their kids have some of gramma's medication if they thought it was for eating? it's not much different, kids must learn that even thingss that seem like toys might not be, and should respect another person's things...

Answer 2

Hi New Mom,

As a collector of doll's let me say that each and every one of my doll's has some special meaning behind them. From the Cabbage patch doll that my brother stood in line to get to the Kaiser Baby that my paren't got me when I was 16.

For the other parent's to NOT understand that the doll's are this woman's personal belongings, well is RUDE. How would they feel if her children came to their home and went through their dresser drawers. Or medicine cabinet.

I'm sorry, but I have respect for other's in their home's... and would expect that those that come into mine would also. I have a friend who's hubby, every time he come's into my home picks up things and makes smart remarks about them.. ... I admit, we have a great deal of stuff, but there are 5 of us... living in what was my child hood home.. I have some pretty interesting antiques.. and it just offend's me everytime he does this. I do not go into his home and do the same thing. His things are his things.. not mine to touch and handle.

The other parent's need to look at it from the parent's view point who's things were played with. What's her's is her's.. and no one else has the right to tell her to get over it....

Answer 3

The other people were absolutely in the wrong! How dare they question what the owner should and shouldn't do with personal belongings that bare of no importance to them. It's none of their damn business and it's not their damn house! Point blank.

That is just ridiculous that of all people, a parent would act like that. It's one thing to be an adult, but when I think of a parent, I think of someone who is not just an adult, but an adult with a few more "brownie points."

If my daughter was meddling with someone else's belongings without asking, I can't fathom holding it against the owner for taking away something that isn't meant to be played with.

I seriously question how their children will grow up if their parents will even teach them about respect. How sad.

Answer 4

I think the woman has every right to be upset. I would not be so upset that the children got a hold of the dolls, they are children after all. I would be furious with the lack of respect that the adults had. Personal is personal, no matter how stupid someone else thinks it is.

Answer 5

The parents were VERY wrong to kickup a fuss. Its HER house and Her personal property and keeps them in her room so that they don't gets ruined! Those parents needto get over it... the kids should not have gone into this womans room, nevermind touched her things.

Answer 6

I think they should respect the fact that this lady didn't want people to take the dolls. Regardless if they are dolls, figurines, or knives they should have respected that she didn't want the kids to touch them. People have things they collect. Obviously these things were important to her and if they were real friends they'd respect that.

Answer 7

They mean something to her. I have collected Barbies since I was younger, which are still in their boxes never opened in my bedroom. I would be very upset if someone went into my bedroom and started playing with them. She has every right to be upset it is her house.