baby dad problems?

Question

my childs father has issues. he acts like an big kid, and I can't deal with it any longer.It is to the point that I want to move and not let him know where I live. He dates females that are only a couple years older than my child.And when she askes him questions about dating he gives her dumb answers.She is 14 and lives in the hood and needs to be directed in the right path ,at one time she was daddys little girl now he acts like her friend,Am i right to want to move away and want better for my child,you only have your childhood once .

Answer 1

yes he is regressing to his teen years, this can be dangerous.he is afraid to grow up and be a man, thats sickening. He must be an embarassesment to her. Next he'll be hitting on your daughter's friends.
get out of that horrible area, bring her where she'll have higher standards, or she will certainly have the same low values they all have there. 14 is very impressionable--by 16 it will be too late.
get out now.

Answer 2

wow that is weird and harsh in the same way. well i would say that the best way to tell him is hold on let's start from the begining, if he cares for your child as much as he cares for you then tell your child what you want and tell him/her to not tell their father how much they want to and i think you should tell your husband that you have to take your child on a busness trip and then if he asks where tell him the first place he hates that pops up int your head, the reason I'm saying a place he hates is beacause if he likes maybe hawii then he will say that he would like to came also. And then tell him that you would probably need to stay in __________ for about a year or so and then tell him that your child will call him like every week or so and then make the reservations for your new home the next day. but don't leave the next day your child won't be ready. And you porobably won't be either. Now if ghe does care for your child more than what he shows for you then keep your child with him and call your child every night fpr the first few months then start calling less often beacause then your child will have already gotten used to it. And so would your husband.

That is my advice i know it is long but it should help.

Answer 3

You might well have a runaway if you move or deny him. Pray a lot and use good practical and age appropriate suggestions about her behavior with her dads conversations and with her friends . Be not only mom but open so that she can bring all the "stuff' and talk about it with you .Give her guidelines and trust her to follow them best as she can under peer pressure and still be able to tell you when she fails. Without fear of punishment for what she knows was bad judgment.The very fact that you are disappointed will make her heart sick and that will lead her to better behavior as well as a better daughter/friend.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

No your not wrong, if he isn't being a father figure he's making a huge impression on her that isn't good. You should also ask your daughter how she feels about dad. If you move and your daughter still wants to see him set up a place and a time, don't let him know where you live for your sake. Things will work out.

Answer 6

well in my personal experiance of haveing a father who dated then married a chick who was three years my senior when i was 15 i understand where your coming from but in all honesty it's up to your daughter and trust me when she is old enough to understand she to will think her dad is a sad old man. look at one point you loved this man enough to have a child don't forget that or your daughter will start to think she was born from hate. it sounds to me as your a tiny bit jealous.. you can't take the child away every parent deserves acess and i ubnderstand what your saying about the "hood" but trust your parenting insincts and trust your child that you have raised her with the knowlage of good bad wrong and right i'm sure she will find her own path and it won't be far from yours.

good luck and if all else fails ***** slap him....lol

Answer 7

Move, leave, go. Him dating those young girls should be of concern to you.