I've been dating a guy for 2 and a half years. We live 3 hours apart, but it has never been a problem. Our relationship has been great until about 3-4 months ago. He will not go home for days and turns off his phone so no one can contact him. The past few times he was going to come visit me he never even showed up, not calling me and telling me he's not coming and turning off his phone so I can't contact him, leaving me to sit all day looking out the window for him. A lot of the time I think he's acting like a immature 9-year-old crying for attention. He tells me all the time that he loves me and wants to see me.. but I just don't know anymore. He's suppose to visit me in 4 days for my birthday and I don't even know if he's coming since he's been ignoring me and his family for the past 4 days. Even sending me a text saying "You won't hear or see me ever again." at 3:30am. I don't know if I should leave him or try and see if I can fix things again..
2007-02-24 09:33:26 · 7 answers · asked by Snowpuff 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I believe that your guy is dealing with a lot of depression right now and doesn't know how to handle things in the correct way. I think that he needs to go for help before he makes a bigger problem out of things and perhaps doesn't become suicidal. You need to get him to talk to you because that is the best thing that you can do right now. I pray that he comes to visit you soon because you seem like you really care about this guy alot. I wish you the best of luck with everything and happy early birthday.. BEST OF LUCK!
2007-02-24 09:41:47 · answer #1 · answered by Babygurl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The fact that your writing this hsows just how lost and confused you feel, you need an outlet for these feelings. For a long time your emotional outlet has been this man, I understand relationships are co-dependancies, maybe you should call up some old girlfriends, have them take you out. Go dancing, or shopping, to a movie anything. It will make you feel more independant and maybe they can help you rant and shead some light on the situation.
Most of all don't give up on him, but don't stop everything to hold his hand through this. Let him know you love him, but more importantly let him know he NEEDS to love you, because he is lucky to have a girl who is so willing to consider staying and is being as understanding as you are.
Hun, if it doesn't work out, which we don't know it won't here, your are a wonderful girl who deserves to be happy with whoever your with, even if thats just yourself!
2007-02-24 10:01:01 · answer #2 · answered by mesacrasy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It seems to me that's he's either in depression or suicidial. Let's hope that's not the case. Do you know if he's under the influence of any drugs or is having problems at work, money problems. I wouldn't wait around for him go out with friends keep yourself busy instead of waiting around for him. You want to show him that you have a life outside of the relationship and noone has the right to treat you this way. A lot of time when women get into relationships we forget our friends, forget who we are. Please keep yourself busy by doing other activities.I would definentely ask him what's going on and if he still acts the way he is then you can decide what you want to do
2007-02-24 09:44:12 · answer #3 · answered by gaganjai 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He seems to be very unstable. He probably met another girl who is closer to home. Too bad for her, good for you. You say it has never been a problem. Would he say that, too ?? Really? Actions speak louder than words, honey. If he's inconsiderate enough to not show OR to call & explain, then he's someone you need to chalk up to experience. He will not treat you better, it will be worse. Move on. Oh, and almost all men are immature, just in different ways.
2007-02-24 10:21:11 · answer #4 · answered by scaredeycat 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was in a smiliar relationship that lasted up to 3 years. It just continued to get worse and worse. It seems that he is still really immature and doesnt see what he has! Maybe if you leave him and give him a taste of his own medicine he will realize what he lost...!
2007-02-24 09:45:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
better you leave him and come dating with me...
2007-02-27 18:26:26 · answer #6 · answered by imran 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him...and move on. life goes on.
2007-02-24 09:39:19 · answer #7 · answered by BUTTERFLY 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋