I don't see the point of romance. What is it?

Question

I really don't know the point. I used to want a girl, but now, I lost interest. I am decent looking, and everything, but I just can care less about romance. I have never asked a girl out, because I am afraid I will be embarassed. I am very shy, but I get angry so easily. I will talk to a girl only if she will talk to me first, because otherwise, she might ignore me. My real interest is the military. All I basically think about is war and the military. I consider myself a soldier, although I'm not old enough to be a soldier yet. I just get frustrated, maybe out of jealousy, when I see people holding hands or something. I don't know why I'm jealous, since I am trying to close myself away from romance. I just could not imagine myself doing anything for anyone. I would never publicy give a girl some flowers, or kiss a girl in public because I am afraid to show love because people will think I'm weak. I am avoiding love because I think it's a bunch of crap that I'm too tough

My mother tries to hug me all the time, but I always tell her to go way, because I can't hug anyone. I don't want to look weak. I have no emotions besides anger and determination.

I don't care if you call me shallow or mean. Maybe I am, but I can't change.

Answer 1

It is B.S. to claim the only emotions you have are anger and determination because based on what you wrote you experience jealousy, embarrassment and fear. I think you're crazy for wanting to go into the military and war, but that's you. I think you're weak for being afraid to express love. The people who think you're weak for that are imbeciles. And as for tough, you are not. Fear of showing love does not make you tough, it makes you miss great opportunities.

Answer 2

Romance is a way to show you care about something.
It doesnt have to be flowers and candy.. washing dishes for someone or buying a cup of coffee, holding a door open.. telling that person I love you so much.. is romantic!