I have been togetther with my girlfriend for two years now.We are both 23 years old and want to take our relationship to the next level.But she is still a little girl.She still lives with her parents,still has a curfew,can't drive her own car unless she asks permission,and she has no job.I'm trying to get her to be more responsible and get a job because we can't move foward until she joins the real world.She doesn't want to look for jobs because her parents spoil her.They get her everything she wants so she figures why work?She also feels her looks will get her by her whole life.She always wants me to take her out.I'm tired of this.Iv'e been working since I was 16 and I don't have nice things because Iv'e been saving all my earnings for my future.Which now I can afford houses and cars but I don't feel that she deserves for me to share that with her because she dont know the feeling of sacrafices and responsibilities.Please help me.Serious answers only please.This is a real problem.
2007-02-24 09:13:38 · 7 answers · asked by L 619 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You cannot do anything to make her change if that is not what she wants to do. If she has been brought up to expect to be treated a certain way in life - everything handed to her by Mom & Dad - then you will have to do the same thing for her as well if you are going to be her boyfriend and then eventually her husband.
If you are pretty well off financially, but still just a working guy, then it will be a struggle for the two of you for the entire relationship because you will have have to support her in the style that she is accustomed to.
If she was aware that she has has had it lucky so far and knew that the real world may not be so easy, then maybe she would be willing to struggle and sweat along with you to make a life together - but it does not sound to me like she really wants to deal with that kind of reality.
If she is not willing to break away from the comfort of her current life, then the relationship may not have a future unless you are willing to treat her the way she wants, and it sounds like you better have the bank account to afford her.
2007-02-24 09:43:15 · answer #1 · answered by Curious Guy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your relationship has reached that point where you either make it or break it. It sounds like you are sure what you want out of life, at least for now. It sounds like you know what you want it a mate. She is not on the same page. I'd have a heart to heart with her. While I wouldn't give her an ultimatum, I would tell her that you are contemplating the long term'ness' of your relationship.
Make it about what you want, what you are considering. See what she says and go from there. If she loves you and wants a future with you, she will know what that looks like and can determine if she wants the same. You may only see a small change at first, but hopefully more changes in the long run. Give it a few more months. If you see so progress, I would break off the relationship.
2007-02-24 09:21:27 · answer #2 · answered by ME 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
619 Who are you kidding. She was raised this way for 23 years she is set in her thinking. You are dating the wrong girl for you. Tell her to get sugar Daddy you want a real women not a spoiled play toy . There is a girl out there for you not this one. May be in 10 years she will want to leave her parents but I bet she will run to them every time she doesn't get her way.
2007-02-24 09:26:12 · answer #3 · answered by kiss4u 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to tell you honestly that what exactly happen to me and my ex fiancee she's kinda mommas girl she listen all the time her moms and she let her moms to make a decision for her. once the parents get involved with your relationship always her parents will choose before you. so talk to her seriously if she's ready to have a relationship and be stand her own feet then she need to make a decision between you and her parents if she does choose her parents then move on, there is nothing you can do.
2007-02-24 09:21:35 · answer #4 · answered by luvu4ever14344 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thta's tuff, talk to her about it. talk to her parents about this too. You might cinvince the girl to be more responcible. you might also convince the parents to stop spoiling her so much. The parents might also make her fid a job and/or make her leave the house and get her own apartment room.
2007-02-24 09:23:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you loved this girl, you wouldn't find so many faults with her. You can't change her. Period. Either accept who she is, or find someone more suitable to your financial planning.
2007-02-24 09:18:26 · answer #6 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her parents you are screwing her (man you better be) - then they may throw her out and that will make her grow up.
2007-02-24 09:24:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋