When my husband and I first moved out on our own 6 years ago
We received hand me downs from family because we didn't own anything but a bed and a couch.
and now 6 years later I found out that we were frowned on because we accepted these gifts.
However these same people don't think it's bad to go to garage sales and isn't that just about the same thing? just that instead of it given you are paying for someone's junk.
I don't know if I should say anything to them or not.
They did not tell me, I overheard them laughing about it one day and it hurt my feelings because they are my family.
2007-02-24 08:51:57 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I wouldn't worry about it. I don't think there's any shame in hand me downs or garage sales.
But if it really bothers you, then you should tell them about it. And if it doesn't let up, and keeps bothering you, I'd say something then......but for now, just let it go.
2007-02-24 08:56:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
They are a**holes! I moved out with my boyfriend and got hand me downs, it's only normal to get gifts for your first home, if they think it's wrong now, then they shouldn't have given these things to you just to turn around and laugh about it behind your back. I know they're family, but that's pathetic on their part. They need to think about when they first moved out, it was probably difficult and hard to afford at first, but because someone gave them a boost they got the good things out of life. I think you should tell them how it made you feel, and tell them that they were once in your shoes too.
2007-02-24 16:58:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would say anything about it, let them be that way if they want to there really isn't anything your going to say to change what they think any way.
I think hand me downs are great for so many reasons, so do many people I think. I'm surprised really to hear that some one would give someone things then frown on them for taking it, its quite silly to me. I would blow it off, if anything, don't accept things from them anymore. Simply say no thank you, smile and go on happily.
Good Luck to you.
2007-02-24 17:00:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i can understand why that would hurt your feelings as it would mine since it was coming from family . But dont worry about it everyone needs a helping hand getting started sitting up house so dont let them make you feel bad. as far as saying something to them i probally would just because i tend to be a very out spoken person and would have to get it off my chest
2007-02-24 16:56:51 · answer #4 · answered by Robert C 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure your not being too hard on them? i dont think for one moment they meant to hurt your feelings i think if you told them how you felt about them saying that they would tell you they didnt mean it that way ,lots of people have hand me downs when they first start up ,if its bugging you mention it to one of them but i honestly think they love you and didnt mean no harm just a silly joke that got out of hand but if its playing on your mind then you need to mention it for some kind of closure xxx
2007-02-24 16:59:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand your pain. It's sad, and rude being that those people are related to you. Anyway disregard their ignorance. They are just haters, people view your success as a mirror to their lives and sre ultimately unhappy with themselves. Its just as drastic case of resentment. Don't let them get you down. At least you saved money, and live a happier life!
Keep Hope Alive!
2007-02-24 16:58:53 · answer #6 · answered by pixiedust 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats not cool, at all. Did you let them know how you feel? To you its a joke gone to far, but they are just having fun. So I say, do whatever you like, see how they react, and then take it from there. Good luck, and you have your husband to support you, right?
2007-02-24 17:17:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you got your feelings hurt. I wouldn't worry about what they think anyway. I prefer other people's treasures, they have a history. Go on with making your life with your hubby and be happy hon.
2007-02-24 16:58:50 · answer #8 · answered by ann s 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Families sometimes hurt others and don't mean it. Just know that you and your husband are happy no matter what others even family thinks.
2007-02-24 16:57:26 · answer #9 · answered by jayackison 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
why did they even give them to you then i would say something to them about it offer them thier stuff back tell them if they really dont want to give you something dont offer to!
2007-02-24 17:09:25 · answer #10 · answered by Avaria 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋