I'm about to go to college next year, I have been in a couple relationahips, but noting serious. I feel as though it is my time for my 'first time' (if you know what I mean). I have a freidn that I have known for a couple years and I have been kinda attracted to him since then. But I reallly trust him and feel that before I go off to college, if I do anything, it would be with him. I'm thinking that when I go to college, I am going to meet alot of guys and I might get wound up in stuff and not know what I am doing. The idea of 'my first' seems very important to me. Does it seem rational to just do it with this friend before I leave so at least I know that it was with some one I had feelings for, and loved in a way?
2007-02-24 08:42:59 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are asking this question, it doesn't seem like you're ready. Don't rush. It's not a bad thing to be a virgin. Personally, I think your first time should be with someone you love and who loves you back like your husband.
2007-02-24 08:54:42 · answer #1 · answered by bluegirl5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you making the "first time" seem like a race or something that has to be accomplished before going to college ? The first time can happen anytime and it doesn't have to be premeditated. Don't use your friend for this. Your friendship will suffer and, for what ? Are you embarrassed about going to college a virgin ? Since when has "not being a virgin" been a prerequisite to get into college ? The first time will be special and it'll be with someone who you care about and who cares about you. Be patient and it'll happen before you know it !
2007-02-24 16:52:45 · answer #2 · answered by dd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your first time should be with your husband. i know i sound old fashioned but that's what's wrong with this world now. everyone wants to experiment and try things out before they do it. your virginity is a very special gift that you can share w/ the man you say you want to spend the rest of your life with. well why give the very special part of you away for someone you just have feelings for and at the risk of your friendship. don't worry a/b going away to college. you just have to make the right choices and you won't get caught up in that college trap of everyone else is doing it. think for yourself and do what's right. i wish i had saved it for my wedding night. i wish you the best in whatever decsion you make. just remember you can't take that moment back so think long and hard a/b it. take care.
2007-02-24 16:56:16 · answer #3 · answered by freedom fighter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing, but far younger than college age... YES the friend idea is a good one! They can "show you the ropes" and you won't have the nerves and anxiety like you would a first time when romance is involved. Remember, we are all born virgins but it's a fairly easy condition to get over!
2007-02-24 16:49:47 · answer #4 · answered by barefoot_always 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having your first time with a friend is never a good idea.
Having sex with a friend is never a good idea.
BUT, having your first time with a friend right before you run off to college is a pretty sh*tty and selfish thing to do. What happens if he thinks he is in love with you, but you are not really in lvoe with him? What if he follows you to college looking to pursue a relationship that just is not there?
Basically, you know that you would be just using him, so don't ask us for permission! You already know the right thing to do.
2007-02-24 16:57:37 · answer #5 · answered by DrRJP 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, let go of high school and move on. if it were really that serious between you and the friend, then you would be with the friend, and he would be a boyfriend instead of a friend. all you're going to do is hurt the friend, because he'll want a serious relationship and you would have moved on to experimenting with college guys and stuff. you can't start something with the friend that you're not going to finish.
2007-02-24 16:49:07 · answer #6 · answered by collard greens with hash browns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your worried about not getting any first time experience before you go to college coz you will meet alot of guys and don't know what you do if you gonna do it with someone. that is not important things to learn before you go to college, that's means in your mind is to go have fun in college and don't care about your school. it doesn't matter if you doesn't have first time experience the important is to get a degree and someday it will be a good experience to you when you meet someone that you gonna be with forever and that's more important to a guy when you be with him.
2007-02-24 16:57:59 · answer #7 · answered by luvu4ever14344 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmm, for you it would be special i'm sure...seing as you said that you have feelings for him and you loved him. my only problem is that you said that you loved him "in a way" and yeah, in a way a friend loves a friend which makes me a little nervous. honestly i think it would be better to wait to have sex with someone you are absolutely in love with. even if you were in love with the guy it is much better when he feels the same way about you. so unless you both want it and you're both very in love i would say don't do it. who cares about being a virgin in college? it's not a big deal.
2007-02-24 16:52:45 · answer #8 · answered by Heather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first time is very precious. You don't want it to be a selfish moment but a moment of love. Plus how are you going to be focused on graduating if your thinking about sex. Have him as a support system someoen to call when things are bad. That would be a better solution.
2007-02-24 16:48:32 · answer #9 · answered by Noree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No ...you're first time should be with your husband. If you do it with a friend, it could likely ruin your friendship. Be in control and don't get into stuff that could alter your senses. In the future you will be glad you didn't. Sooo be a good girl. Don't risk getting into trouble
2007-02-24 16:49:25 · answer #10 · answered by little Glo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋