he is working 6 full days a week n i just see less attention from him, i understand that he probably tiered after work,but i really want it all be like be4,i tryed to talk to him but i dont think he understands me..i dont just know how can i make him understand that i really need him back as he was.i really love my husband n feel really bad because i confused about all this .. any advices? sometimes i think maybe if he realize that he can loose me it will change the way he is now n he gonna treat me with more attention.. anybody could tell me what should i do???
2007-02-24 08:32:52 · 14 answers · asked by crazymum 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow. I'm in no position to judge your situation, he could very well be being unreasonable, and neglecting you for no good reason. If he is, threats aren't the way. Talk to him. If he refuses to listen, show him by way of a trial separation, if you're serious about wanting to leave.
However.
If he's simply working more because he has to, you're being quite unfair to him. Don't know if you're working, but if you're not, you could consider getting at least a part time job to ease some of the financial burden and allow him more free time with you. But him wanting to be a good provider is really quite a nasty reason to threaten him with leaving.
2007-02-24 08:39:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the best thing to do is get a life-he will notice if you are not there when he is and that may change things.
btw why is working like this-if he is scared of losing his job, that is a real threat especially these days so you may want to be supportive and change your sleep and habits to coincide with his
plan special moments for when he is home. greet him and he may surprise you
finding love is no easy feat-dont lose it because of what can be worked on.
A little food for thought-if you do something that someone suggests here that doesnt work what will you do and how will that help your situation.
i am op the opinion that when you are around people who are not happy they will make crazy suggestions so that you join their crazy club. dont do that-be rational-not emotional and decide how important this marriage is to you-if you are not hapy and being with him is not enough to get you through this then act on that but dont hurt him in the process. you wont feel better nad nothign will be solved. Remember all actions have consequences and we can not always foresee the worst case scenario-for you i am guessing this would be divorce.
Read everything here grab a pen and some paper and your bible-go talk to soemone or stay home and talk/write to god in a journal but get your soul & spirit together then proceed.
i hope this helps
2007-02-24 16:43:27 · answer #2 · answered by msijg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad to say but most people have to lose before they realize what they have lost. The sad part is some losses are permanant. Talk to him and let him know what you feel. Dont threaten to leave if he doesnt improve. Talk to him and and see what he does, if he loves you nothing that comes out of your mouth will drive him away it should bring him closer. Now if your needs go unanswered dont threaten him...just do whatever you have to do....the rest i cant help you with because im on that second part myself...what you have to remember is that in a relationship it wil never be 50/50 BUT there compromises and there are ways for both people to respect each other and make each other happy. Its no different than you knowing that there are certain things you would never do to your mother or whomever is important to you. Also ask yourself and ask him if your doing something wrong, ask all those tough questions.
2007-02-24 16:44:25 · answer #3 · answered by def 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody changes ands there is usually no going back. I am sure even you have changed since the first time you two got together. The key to keeping the relationship is understanding the changes and working the relationship around them.
Now if his changes were behavioral (Short fuse, suddenly secretive etc.) then it is time to figure out what he is hiding.
Either way it is time to sit down and get everything out. Just talking may help things out.
2007-02-24 16:38:55 · answer #4 · answered by cobra2140 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two both need to have some time for each other. I think you both should sit down and talk about how you are feeling. Talk about the fact that you are feeling neglected. You both need a "second honeymoon" and you both need to get reacquainted.
I hope this helps. You both need to take a week off.
You both need to spend some well deserve time together.
2007-02-24 16:54:09 · answer #5 · answered by uchaboo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not understand women. He is probably working his *** off because you guys have bills to pay or are in need of something. Don't stress him out more by saying that you are going to leave him. Maybe you should get a job/second job to help him out and keep your mind busy also.
2007-02-24 16:37:36 · answer #6 · answered by Roger B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In a relationship nothing remains the same and one must adopt to the change as it comes. Husband and wives situation are made for better or worse and not trip out becomes things are not the same.
2007-02-24 16:38:53 · answer #7 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is to stop bitching. No man wants to come home after working so much to hear bitching and nagging.... that will make him stay away longer. You need to realize he's working his *** off so you two can have things. Be sweet and praise him for working so hard and do nice little things for him and he will show you more attention.
2007-02-24 16:38:14 · answer #8 · answered by Nette 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your complaining that your husband is working to much and if he wasnt working at all you'd be complaining about that you cant have it both ways. A man has to make a living but it sounds like there is more of a problem in ur marriage than just that .
2007-02-24 16:38:29 · answer #9 · answered by Robert C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to show him a romatic love when he comes home to get him in the mood, cook for dinner for him. don't talk anything yet untill he get some good rest and then ask him if he have any problem, maybe he got something problem to you and he can't tell you coz of his schedule at work and he got alot of things in his mind that's why he doesn't have time to you. try to pampered him maybe he got too much stressed and maybe that's what his waiting for from you..
2007-02-24 16:43:23 · answer #10 · answered by luvu4ever14344 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋