my child keeps poopping in his pants without telling me he needs to go potty what i do?

Question

heis potty trained
he just learned 1 month ago
do i punish him or not help me

Answer 1

Going potty is the easy part. It is the poop that is the hardest part to help them with. You will only make things worse if you get angry and punish him. My now four year old was pottytrained for the potty completely at age 3, but we still had about 6 more months of struggle with the poop. Every child is different and you have to let them figure it out and do it on their time. If you push it too hard, you might see him regress completely.

Answer 2

never punish a child learning to potty train, it will do nothing but back fire on u and they will never go potty, the best thing to do is in a calm voice ask why he didnt tell u he had to go potty?, and what can he do next time to get to the bathroom before going potty in his pants it can talk up to 6 months to get him going to the bathroom on a regular basis, and i had the same problem i was told its because some children just dont want to part with themselves, yes it sounds strange, but they see a part of themselves being flushed down the toilet and they dont like it, it just takes a little extra work to get him going on a regular basis but it will soon work my son has been potty trained for about 5 months now and he dont have as many accidents now as we did, he may go potty in the bed everyonce in a while put for the most part he goes to the bathroom so good luck and it will soon come to him

Answer 3

I went through this problem this summer. Potty training is different for boys because they really have to distinguish if they are going to make a poop. Girls you just sit them down and let them have at it.

Here's what I did. Everytime my son would poop in his pants, I would take him into the bathroom and make a show of dumping the poop from his pull-ups or underwear into the toilet. I would say "big boys don't poop in their pants they poop in the potty". I would let him flush the toilet and then I would clean him up.

This made my son look at and acknowledge the poop and reinforced that he should sit on the potty when he makes a poop. He would say "ohhhh nasty mommy". I was like yeah. After about a week and a half of faithfully dumping it into the potty, he got the message. We haven't had a poop accident since August, and he turned three in October.

Try it, I know it's easier to just lay them down and clean them up similar to how we change baby diapers because you can make more of a mess when they are standing and squirming but you don't want to treat them like you would a baby.

Answer 4

I think you need to try and find out what time of day he is doing this and then try to sit him on the potty right before that time comes. This should do the trick. I don't think punishing him is the answer.
I punished one of my children during potty training and she is now 10 years old and still wets the bed. Don't do it, it has devastating consequences. :(

Answer 5

No no no please do not punish him... I am assuming that he is potty (pee) trained right? Usually #2 is alot more scary for kids. Both my kids once they learned they did awesome... For my son we created a "poo poo on the potty song" and if he poo poo'd then he got 2 pieces of m &m's.... my daughter (future lawyer) the song did not work nor did bribes..lol Finally when we told her to quack (after a week) she would try to quack and that is how she learned to poo poo in the potty.. My daughter was easier after we found her style...give him some time and maybe some privacy. Have you tried the big potty??

Answer 6

Sometimes children are so intrigued in what they are doing they do not think about it. Like some of the others mentioned find out the time of day and just constantly ask him if he has to go. The timing for children needs to be about the same time everyday. Do not punish him but make him help you clean him up. Reward him with praise of some kind and make it a big deal.

Answer 7

I went through this with my daughter a few months after potty training.

Do not punish him for it. Clean him up and tell him you want him using the potty, not going in his pants. You can also try having him help clean up so he sees what a chore it is.

Just be patient and stick with the training, don't confuse him by putting him back in diapers.

Answer 8

Notice the signs..

Does he hide when he goes poo?
Is there a spot in the house is tend to go to when he does it?
Does he make faces that might tell you he has to go?
Does he tiddle?

Maybe ask him each hour if he needs to go potty.

Answer 9

be patient he is not ready yet.