what does this mean if my mom always does this?

Question

I dont get out much to do things but when i am able to I always ask my mom if she would like to do something with me. Not only so I have time with my mom but so she gets out in life and has fun too. Every time I ask her to go do something she always acts kool with it and then backs out or just dont want to period. If my mom asks me to do something I am there asap. I just feel like she never wants to do anything with me but she says we are close and like best friends. wouldnt closeness and being like best friend mean u would want to spend time and do things together? I am always there when she wants to do something no matter what it is. Why dont she want to do things with me? My mom backed out of something with me yesturday we planned to do together today. when i call her today my dad says she out basically doing the same thing we were going to do together. then my mom calls me when she gets home and says i hope ur not mad cause u know we didnt have plans. Thats because she BACKED OUT

Answer 1

i think that your mom doesnt realize how much your plans with her mean to you.i think you should confront her and tell her that hey mom i was wondering why u have been backing out of our plans.because i really enjoy spendoing time with you but you always back out of our plans,is there a reason why you do that? or is there someother way we can spend time together if my plans seem a little inconvineant because i am always there for you and i really want the same from you.and i would appreciate it if you didnt back out of our plans everytime

Answer 2

I know for me I always make plans to do things with my daughter, then things just blow up, or I'm just so tired from working all day. You will notice that as you age your energy levels really go down. This is my problem.
I really would love to keep the plans, but being so tired make me cranky and I wouldn't be very much fun to be around. I am basically saving her from my bad mood. Try doing something relaxing like having her take you to a day spa to just get your nails done. I think she would love it and you can spend time together at the same time.

Answer 3

Sometimes there is no reason. You are being formed today, by your mother, into the mother you will be. Your grandmother influenced your mother. We either become our parents, or despise them and want to be totally different. Other factors play into the mother-daughter relationship. Don't beat yourself up looking for answers. Enjoy the relationship you have and be thankful that you and your mom still talk to each other. Some daughters don't even have that.

Answer 4

Your Mother may have social anxiety, or whatever it's called when people are afraid to leave their house/comfort zone. Does she panic when outside the home or become quiet and withdrawn in public? She may have a real phobia and she needs to be aware that this is a real problem, it's affecting her children and family life.

Answer 5

You need to sit down with your mom ... talk to her about how you feel. Ask her why she has a hard time with commitments. Most likely she has this problem with other's too. It's not your fault.

Answer 6

Take the hint when she wants to visit she will show up. You are not treating yourself right, but then you never mentioned your age?

Answer 7

mabey she feels she may ruin your plans or she is shy round your friends introduce her to them and than invite some over for a sleepover so she can get to know them

Answer 8

to be a best friend, u cant always hang out, u need some alone time, and that is probably jus what she is doin.

Answer 9

Seems kind of weird to me. Do you think she may have a boyfriend on the side?

Answer 10

my mom does it to but i think its cause they don't want to interfear in our fun or at least what we wanna do and if its something where just you and your mom hang out... she might be scared about how you actually feel about her