Hiding Her Feelings, or She Doesn't Want to Hurt Me?

Question

I would like to get the ladies' opinions on this. Over the past several months, I have gotten close with a coworker, who is an indirect subordinate. We share lunch a lot (I pay mostly), we talk about our lives, friends, etc., and occasionally do stuff outside of the office. Anyway, she had a long-term boyfriend, and broke up with him several months ago. I decided about a month afterward to tell her I had feelings. She said "it is not the right time," doesn't want to be in a relationship with anyone, but it's a possibility down the road. Well, I thought this was a line but since then, she has not dated. She doesn't define our relationship - doesn't call me a friend, or a brother, we don't discuss other guys (or girls). I am pretty convinced she either 1) doesn't want to hurt me so she keeps these thoughts to herself (though you might think she would try to let me down easily) or 2) she does have feelings but because I am a superior, she chooses to hide it. Any thoughts?

Answer 1

I would say she is hiding her feeling until she sees what you are all about.

Answer 2

I think being her boss you should leave it alone, what if you have a relationship, it does not work, and she gets mad and get you in trouble at your job, I don't think your job is worth a piece of butt