i am so annoyed Just started going out with my boyfriend as soon as we made things official hes stopped making an effort with me, 50% of the time he doesnt txt or ring. He used to do all the chasing now its me & i hate it. We were meant to see each other tonight and he cancelled. Last night i though we were going to do something but he didnt contact me so i went out with my friends. Feel like the relationship is going to end before its even started, i would hate it if things ended because i think we r good when we are together but when we r apart its like hes forgotten i exist. I dont wanna tell him all of this because im scared of losing him. help!
2007-02-24 08:01:18 · 17 answers · asked by helen b 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he made things official
2007-02-24 08:16:26 · update #1
sweetie u don't have to be wit him 24/7 first off & another thing don't jus think cuz he cancelled and hes not wanting to spend so much time that hes not into ok.. guys need sum time wit there boys or jsu by them self ya kno...see wat u do is u go out have a good time out wit the gurls and jus hang lose ...its alrite to have a "see eachother all the time relationship" but it also lead to bad things ya kno... u see eachother to much sumone will be annoyed trust me i have had it happend once or twice...so jus liet nature take its course and see where it takes u ok..
2007-02-24 08:11:43 · answer #1 · answered by crazysmith187 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some guys just like the pursuit, but aren't mature enough to have an enduring relationship. DO NOT try too hard though! If he's not gonna bother, let it go. I know that it can be really hard to do that, but for real, he should be making an effort. Respect yourself enough to make a stand. If you have a relationship where you feel free to communicate, tell him how you feel and that you deserve more. You are worth a lot! No matter what anybody does or says, don't let it dictate what you feel about yourself. I'll pray for your situation. God can fix stuff!
2007-02-24 16:30:29 · answer #2 · answered by Revelation S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry about what is happening with you and your boyfriend. This has happened to me more than twice (with previous 'boyfriends') I can imagine how you feel! He is taking the piss tp put i in simple and straight forward terms. If he wants you he would try slightly harder. Why does he play with your feelings like that. It not fair, for him to 'make a commitment' that he doesnt intend to be commited to. CRAP! Ask him whats going on if you are impatient< IF you are NOT make yourself unavailable to him when ever he decides to contact you!!! Be 'TOO BUSY' Dont answer his calls until two days later give him the taste of his own medicine. Chin up smile!!
Go out with your friends tonight if you can!! Or stay in and watch a film/ have a nice long bath, a glass of wine and listen to some nice relaxing music....remember tomorrow is a Brand new day...soon you will meet someone who will make you feel needed loved and special!!! (I dont think it will be with this current 'boyfriend')
good luck!!!
2007-02-24 16:13:45 · answer #3 · answered by kitzach 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be scared .... just let it be ... if he wants to come to you, he will .... maybe he was a bit hasty.....in the meantime, since you aren't engaged, you can always go out with other guys and see if there is something better for you .... and even if you were engaged to him, ring and all ..... you still are free to break the engagement....people do that sort of thing all the time... even after they are married, although that is a little more difficult ...
just have a look around and do not worry, free yourself to be yourself ... if someone causes you to worry, it really is not a good thing...
2007-02-24 16:11:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've already lost him. I don't mean to hurt your feelings, but if he were really that interested in seeing you, he would make more of an effort. Either that, or now that he has made things "official", he just thinks you will always be around whenever HE feels like seeing you, and is taking you for granted. I would move on and find someone that is interested in spending a little more time with you.
2007-02-24 16:11:05 · answer #5 · answered by BRIAN W 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Who the one that made things official-you or your boyfriend? Maybe you were the one who made things official and maybe he was not ready yet. That is probably why he is not returning your calls and not texting you. I would suggest you go on and find some one else. I think he is hoping that you would forget about him and that you would move on. And, as for you being scared of losing him, I think you already lost him and that maybe he does not want to be found.
2007-02-24 16:10:32 · answer #6 · answered by uchaboo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Believe in your relationship.
He is busy and needs time out. He knows you understand him and he thinks you can handle being apart for a while.
He trusts that you are sure about him.
if he made it official, he is sure you will love him no matter what.
Instead of passing the test now of giving him his space, you, on the other hand, girl are getting in secured unnecessarily.
Just be strong and find time to keep yourself occupied.
2007-02-25 04:18:59 · answer #7 · answered by CG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do your own thing for a while. He obviously doesnt feel comfortable with commitment. There a ton of other guys out there and though you may hate to lose him, you deserve to be treated with respect. Stand up for yourself. He may end up realizing he needs to s**t or get off the pot.
2007-02-24 16:09:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like much of a relationship worth being annoyed over! Move on girl, do your thing. If in school-study harder, if your already a career woman- do the damn thing! He's not serious about the time of day much less a woman.
Let it burn!
2007-02-24 16:08:02 · answer #9 · answered by NURSING FOR LIFE!! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are scaring him off? Healthy relationships don't require contact 24/7.
2007-02-24 16:05:22 · answer #10 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋