even if a gurl is not hot .. but so cool in her personality.. no body would ask her out ... why..; guys plz answer!!!
2007-02-24 07:49:26 · 15 answers · asked by suMeone'SUmwhere 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Women are attractive to men for their looks and health. Men are attractive to ladies for their ability to provide security and their health as well. That's sex. We're talking making babies here, the most primitive thoughts.
You speak of attractiveness in a relationship. That's slightly different. Everyone wants a charming, honest, attentive partner for a relationship. But people get sexually excited by healthy bodies that exude femininity/security.
I get frustrated by ladies answering "what do you want most in a man?" with the answer "a sense of humor". You don't see Louie Anderson or Larry the Cable Guy making a couple really good jokes and then getting hit with 15 pairs of ladies' underwear! Meanwhile, "men" like Kevin Federline and Bobby Brown scatter kids across the countryside like cheeseburger wrappers in the wind. It's a two-way street, unfortunately.
2007-02-24 07:59:20 · answer #1 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Appearance is important to both men and women. Physical attraction has a lot to do with whether one is attracted to a person in general. But it is only one factor. Personality, humor, intelligence communication ability, understanding, caring, compassion, etc., all help define a person.
You'll find somebody. You should start by thinking about what kind of guy you'd like to date, and then look around and see who fits that bill. Then go make friends with some of them, and take the initiative on asking them out.
Lose the chip on your shoulder about not being hot and personality being more important than appearance. That will only be self-defeating. Be upbeat, happy, smile a lot, and be nice to everyone.
2007-02-24 16:00:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always asked anybody I thought was cool and would have fun with out. Didn't worry about it too much. I had all kinds of friends. I got teased by some but that didn't bother me. I kept the friends that supported me and dumped the ones that didn't. I love great personality. If they are hot but have nothing to talk about, what's the point of going out. If they are average or a little below average but were great company and really fun to be with, all the better, I had fun. Hope this helps. Don't generalize. We're not all the same. Hope this helps.
The Syko Ward
2007-02-24 15:57:24 · answer #3 · answered by The Syko Ward 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Appearance is only ONE of the qualities "gentlemen" look for in
potential dates. And, of course, upon first meeting, appearance
is the first thing a guy notices. He can't know the personality of
a girl until conversation is started. So, to say that, "Appearance
is the ONLY thing you notice" is not totally accurate. Many guys
notice the smile, the eyes, how she's dressed, color of her hair,
and whether or not she's standing beside another guy.
No, sweetheart, appearance is not the only thing--just the
first thing guys see about you.
2007-02-24 16:03:30 · answer #4 · answered by SlownEasy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It try to be as honest as possible. Pretty isn't everything, but it cant hurt. If a girl is hot i will more like like to go up to her and talk to her ask out, out of the blue. However, if i am friends with a girl and she isnt "hot" and an attraction build ill go out with her, which would be more serious in the former. Though in going out asking out a girl there has to be some sort of physical attraction or spark. Would you go out with a guy you found utterly physically repulsive and disgusting or absolutely no chemisty?
2007-02-24 16:01:53 · answer #5 · answered by holdencaufield 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it looks like you are approaching arrogant and ignorant men. We are not all like that so maybe you just need to pick a new type of guy, because personnally I would rather have an OK girl with a good personality than a supermodel that is dumb as hell, so please don't classify all men together.
2007-02-24 15:55:14 · answer #6 · answered by reese121983 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would ask her out, i am a guy who truely appreciates physical beauty but no body could ever compare to the heart/soul
2007-02-26 20:35:03 · answer #7 · answered by Daniel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I date girls who look good, not necessarily only girls who look the best, but girls who can control their emotions and keep themselves from getting too wild. But, I have certain standards like: They can't have short hair, they can't dress like a slut in public, and they can't be really ugly.
2007-02-24 15:57:11 · answer #8 · answered by HazyMind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that isnt true for every1. every1 else thinks my gf is ugly. i really dont care, shes the sweetest girl in the world.
2007-02-24 16:20:04 · answer #9 · answered by Elliot M. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of guys are shallow and think to much of themselves thats why!
2007-02-24 15:52:23 · answer #10 · answered by none 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋