Why is it that now and days EVERYONE expects a tip?

Question

When I got married, everyone seemed to want a tip. Everyone I asked keep telling me to tip everyone who I used for my wedding. The prices are already out the roof and they want more? Why? They are getting paid a good amount. Why do I need to give them more? On my wedding the only person I tipped was the people serving my food. The bartenders got tips from the people, why do they need more? I also tipped my DJ but only because he did a GREAT job and I mean a GREAT job. He had people dancing all night and at times he was running around acting like he was the wedding planner. It was I didn't have to worry about anything once I got there. I think a tip is for over the top service. I do tip when I go out to eat. But that is only because they only get paid 3.13 an hour. I really think they should get paid more. Why should I have to pay for some restaurants employees? They should only get tips of they give over to top service. Does anyone else feel this way?

I feel like anyone who does ANYTHING for me expects a tip. I paid a shuttle bus to drive me from one air port to another and after I got off the other people started tipping him. I was like, hell no I already gave them 20.00 to be on this smelly bus. I'm not giving them more.

Answer 1

I feel the same way! I recently bought cabin beds for my kids, I paid one price after paying off the balance and that was including delivery an set-up. When the Asian guys came, they off the top started to tell my husband about how much all the other people pay them for set-up! an gave a figure..... So later they got hungry, thirsty,ETC. So I went out to buy them MC Donald's, Just a big mac the guy said' But after wards they complaint they needed more. I was already like, "they're working on my nerves by all the extra yawning an stretching like they were so tired. So I told my husband when they finish to say" Okay thx.. just to see if they was gonna sit around for an tip. Yes he did! he stood there saying a tip? tip? my husband said huh? chips? lol he said again Tip? so then my husband gave him 25.00! he had the nerves to say one dollar more, To make it even. I told my husband to shut the door! these people are ridiculous with these tips now days

Answer 2

Tipping was started during the great depression. Employers didn't have enough money to pay their workers, yet the goverment wanted people to be able to work and still make a decent wage. So they asked the people to help pay the wages of workers by 'tipping' them for their service. As you can see it worked. Today it's still used by workers in some service areas. If we were to do away with tipping, that would mean that people being paid about 3 dollars an hour would now have to be paid about 10-15 or even more. I guess it all depends on how much the workers and the employers decided they are 'worth'.


Who do you think will eat this skyrocking cost? The employers, think again. It will be you and I, my friend. You entree that used to cost about 10 would be at least 20-30, at least. We're talking 1000's and 1000's of dollars a year that the employers would now have to take on. And think about it, how do you think your service will really be? Do you think they will rush to get your food to you or will it be more like some McDonald's where they get you what you want, but don't always care if you're happy.

If you people continue to not tip people aren't going to want to do the jobs. A problem we are having now with certain jobs. Americans don't want to do them, then foreign workers come in and gladly do them and then we whine and moan about it.

Now, for the other part of your statement. No, I don't feel the need to tip any and everyone I come in contact with. I tip delivery drivers, waitstaff and traditional people. Do I tip the pizza counter guy who simply took my cash and handed me a pizza, no. I don't think he provided me a true traditional service. Plus, he is already compensated by his employer.

Answer 3

They put tip "jars" everywhere, I don't use them. Pizza and fast food deliveries now charge a delivery fee in my area, $2.00...I live 5 min. from the place, that's $60.00 an hour... I'll pick it up myself, thank you. I don't care if someone else tips or tells me I should, as you said, other than waitstaff (and over 6 people, they put the tip in the bill), I only tip if the service is well above average. I'm sure the tip for the waitstaff at your wedding was included in the price, you tipped twice. Same for the bartender, all parties include a tip of 18-20% of the total bill for the servers. If you felt that way about your DJ, you should tip him. However I think he gave you what you paid him for without a tip (unless you thought you were hiring a poor DJ). I don't tip the trash men, the mailman, or the paper guy usually. An example of when a tip is deserved is: my mailman had delivered my mail and moved forward on his route, he had a package for me but I wasn't home to sign for it, so he couldn't deliver it. About 1 mile from my house he saw me heading for home, he turned around and delivered my package. This is above and beyond his duty, and also saved me from driving to the post office, waiting in line and picking up my package, this deserves a tip. I work in the service industry, at christmas, I get some gift's, that I apprieciate very much, but the person that gives it to me does not get better service than the rest of my customers, they are all paying for my best service.

Answer 4

Tipping should not not be given unless the service you receive is exceptional. I'm not sure why everyone feels they deserve a tip, it's their job and to receive a tip is just confirmation that you are doing a great job.
Too many restaurants (for example) do not pay the staff what they are worth and expect the public to make up the difference. I will never leave a tip for services that are below my expectations, it's a hint that perhaps what they are providing is not good enough and should change their ways. I don't feel guilty about it, I too work hard for my money and will not throw it away on poor service.

Answer 5

Yes, it seems like everyone is asking for extra money. I am in job where I don't get tipped. ( I work in a public library). We do get lots of treats at Christmastime. When I first started this job, an elderly woman gave me a dollar for helping her find a book. She said we didn't get paid enough. (we don't). I put the $1 in a charity fund the staff supports. :)

I tip my hairdresser. She does a great job and has to support 3 kids on her own. I doubt if my $5 tip will go a long way, but she has the extra cash in case her kids need something for school.

A few weeks ago, my garage door broke. The spring broke and my car was stuck inside and I was late for work. The repair guy came out in sub zero weather and fixed it in about 45 minutes. I gave him a tip because 1) he worked in the cold 2) he came out quickly 3) he was professional.

I don't know if these examples help, but I was willing and happy to give the tips.

Answer 6

You are so right and what an annoyance it is. Whenever we have the state fair here, there are tip canisters in the bathrooms for the maids. And the bathrooms are dirty and you've already spent an hour or more waiting in traffic to get there, then gotten ripped off to get into the fair, shoved around by crowds, ripped off to park or walked a long way in the cold, and then ripped off for food or water or rides or anything, and then they want you to tip them to use the bathroom?

If you don't want to tip, you should not. You did the right thing. They get paid already. Think of any of us who are honest working people. If we do an extra good job, do we ask for tips? No. Do we even ask for thank yous? No. We have the satisfaction of knowing what a good job we did. And that's enough for me.

Answer 7

I agree with you totally.. there is too much tipping going on! I suppose that what really bothers me the most is the idea that you should tip a percentage of the bill. If I choose to buy a $20 steak, why should I tip twice as much as if I bought a $10 pasta? That makes no sense at all! And I don't even want to get into tipping on drinks!

Answer 8

I agree, I only give tips when I have received exceptional service. They are already being paid for the services they are providing, why should the expect more?

Answer 9

A tip is used to ensure good service so if the service is good you must tip... if it was not tell them and dont leave a tip, make sure its not included in the bill

Answer 10

I agree about wedding staff such as bartenders being tipped when they also have a tip jar out. If they present a tip jar they shouldn't be allowed to charge you a gratuity fee.