humilated by my mom?

Question

okay me and my brother who is 8 were working on a project in the garage and we took my dads spray paint and kind of got a bunch of it on our faces, hair, legs, arms and clothes. i'm 13 by the way. anyway we tried to sneak inside without mom seeing and tried to wash it off but it wasn't working. mom did find out and she completely humilated me. she had us go down to our underwear and told us to go upstairs and wait for her in the bathroom. my sister saw us to. anyway mom came in the bathroom and started filling the bathtub and told us to take our underwear off and get in. i didn't want to but i didn't have a choice. she got some chemicals and helped washed the paint off both of us. it was so humilating and it took over an hour to get it off. i am not a baby and i think that this is so embarssing and stuff. what can i do?

Answer 1

I don't think it was okay for your mom to strip you down in front of your sister. I can understand that was embarrassing for you. Just sit down with your mom and let her know (in a calm manner) how it made you feel and how you would like her to approach it next time. Also, apologize for the paint thing... you should have been more careful with the paint. Good luck!

Answer 2

I'm sure your Mom was teaching you a lesson. You are 13 years old, and really should not have been playing with your Dads spray paint with your younger brother. Spray paint is loaded with dangerous chemicals, and she needed to get the paint off of you and your brother as quickly as possible.

Sometimes a bit of humiliation can be a good learning experience. You can be thankful that you didn't have a lot of other people in the house other than your family, out you really could have been humiliated.

If you are saying you are not a baby, you need to act as a young adult and be more responsible.

Answer 3

You shouldn't have gotten paint all over yourself. She's your mother. She took care of you when you were a baby which means she's seen all of those parts many many times. She was probably (1) mad, (2) worried about the paint getting off of both of you, (3) scared of what could happen to your skin if the paint stayed on later, and (4) worried more about your health then your feelings. No offense but boys in general DO NOT clean themselves well. If it took your mom an hour to get it off you probably would have given up at about 20 minutes.

She did what she thought was best. Talk to her about being embarrassed. The only way to let her know is to explain it. She was probably worried about you guys and that got in the way of her thinking about what you feel.

To avoid these situations--stay away from things that could be even remotely dangerous.

Answer 4

Humiliating someone teaches a person alot of things, unfortunately none of these things are good. No one should be treated like this. Of course you feel like her actions were excessive because they were. You are entitled to having privacy. You are right you are a teenager and no longer a child. You have boundaries too that should be taken into consideration and respected, especially with your own body. I'm hoping that she didn't intend on taking it this far on purpose and just wasn't realizing what she was doing, although that attitude probably doesn't make you feel much better. Talk to a counselor at school or someone you really trust. They will understand and help to set up boundaries with you, and work through this. I feel really bad that you had to experience this, but I see your very wise in looking for a solution.

Answer 5

You are the big brother and you got paint all over you ? Face, hair legs...? Tell your mom how it made you feel and how embarrassed you were to be nude in front of your mom!

Tell her you are sorry you made such a mess of things and you will be more careful and responsible in the future...

She could have given you a cloth with the chemical on it and asked you to clean up yourself and your little brother , but based on the mess you made she was not sure you could do it alone.

Answer 6

You can be more responsible and NOT TOUCH THE PAINT NEXT TIME.

You asked for it in my opinion. She had to clean the paint off. You are a bit old for acting up and being irresponsible with paint. you'd expect this from a 5 or 8 year old, but at 13, you should know better.

Answer 7

I am sure your mom was very concerned about getting all the paint off of you. Most likely was worried what effects it can have on you to not get all the paint off of you. saying that tho, perhaps you can have a talk with her..a respectful talk...expalin to her that you find it embarrassing she does this, or did this. Tell her, you know she is thinking about you..and wanting to make sure you are safe etc..but, you are a big boy now!..And you need your privacy .Tell her it totally humiliates you. Hopefully she will see your point, nd respect it.

Answer 8

Didn't you ask this same question last week or something? Except then it was just you covered in paint and your brother saw you, you didn't mention anything about a sister.

Just as I said before, she was just trying to help you, but maybe she could have let you wear swim trunks or something.

Answer 9

RyanJams,I truelly simpitice with your feelings,but understand you are 13,you are living in your Mom's house and you made a mistake.True perhaps your Mom was a little much with her techniech she felt she had to impress her feelings on you guys&it appears she did.Be Humbel,don't hold it against her&try to live with it.Good Luck!

Answer 10

suck it up you should have not been playing with the paint in the first place if i was your mom you would have had to do the same thing be happy she knew how to get that crap off