my son has just stared nursery he cries every day its hard but i just leave him is that the best thing to do?

Answer 1

Yes you are doing the right thing.Creating a fuss will just make him more anxious,show him that you are relaxed about leaving him and he will be fine soon.

Answer 2

I work in a children's nursery and saying bye and leaving is usually the best thing to do as parents who linger usually upset the child for longer, some children do take more time than others to settle but usually they are playing happily with their friends before mum or dad has got to the car park.
ps When my son first went to nursery I used to go home in tears myself if he got upset.

Answer 3

I used to teach prekindergarten and I can tell you, from a teacher's point of view, you are doing the right thing. Almost all of the children who cry when parent's leave settle down within minutes of the separation. However, the parents who won't leave have children who cry longer and are less able to play and interact with their peers. Your son needs one last hug and kiss and then departure. Know that, many times, the children who have cried for mom or dad to stay end up not wanting to leave at the end of the day! As a new mom, I dread the days when my son cries for me not to leave, but I also know that it will work out okay for both of us when I leave and he learns that I will always come back for him.

Answer 4

You are doing the right thing.

You may be able to stop this if you start mentioning on your way to nursery, that mom goes to work, dad goes to work and he goes to the nursery - and everybody goes back home in the evening. If you do this with a casual tone (and not as an apology) it would suggest to him that he is just like mom and dad and goes someplace important. This may make him feel better about his new situation.

Good luck :)

Answer 5

I am now 27 years old and one of my first memories is crying at nursery. I don't sit here thinking why did my mum leave me. I am now a independent woman looking after my own 11 month old.At the moment she doesn't care when I leave her with someone else but I'm sure she's going to have her moments.

Answer 6

I run a daycare and I advise the parents to bring their child in, take coats off, and put things in cubby and then tell the child "Mommy has to go but I will be back soon." A quick kiss and then leave even if the child cries. Typically within a week or two the crying stops.

Answer 7

You are doing the right thing. My daughter use to do the same thing now she's seven and doesn't remember anything. But I think nursery gave her a better start as fas a development and learning to communicate with others. Your a great mom.

Answer 8

oh yes, you're giving the nursery staff a chance to distract him with activities.
After a few minutes of play - he probably won't even think of you until picking up time
I know it feels horrid, but the fact is he has to learn to get along with kids his own age - those who do nursery first have that advantage - they are not so worried about starting school

Answer 9

As a preschool teacher and mother of 3 I say yes you are doing the right thing. I know it's hard and you feel so bad for making them cry. But he is trying to see if you will "do what HE wants" by staying or not leaving him.....always just asure him that you ARE coming back like always, and you will see him soon!

Answer 10

I had this problem with my daughter. The staff assured me she settled down soon after I left. They also invited me to wait around a bit and then have a sneaky peek through the window. Sure enough she was always fine. I also found it helpful for her to take a special toy into nursery.

Answer 11

yes you are doing the right thing. a boy who goes to my sons nursery was doing this for the first week or so, and now he just goes in with no fuss. it is hard, but i bet once you have left, he is fine. ask the teacher if you can ring about 30 mins later so you know he ok and put your mind to rest.