I always thought that it there was this huge quantity of unwanted babies in the USA and that was why abortion was so important, but I just found out that really there is a SEVEN YEAR ADOPTION WAITING LIST to adopt a baby and that 3,000 A DAY ARE ABORTED in the USA! That makes no sense! It also says that 87% of the moms having abortions are white and healthy but that 92% of the people on the list checked a box indicating that the child's race was "not relevant". Next time one of you girls get pregnant think about adoption! There are a whole bunch of people out there looking for a baby. Why kill yours when someone else will love it and give it a chance to grow?
2007-02-24 07:22:55 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Some people don't want to lose their body...selfish. I agree with you 100%.
2007-02-24 07:28:24 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Me 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I am not sure where your numbers are coming from, maybe the United States overall, however, 7 years is high. Average domestic placement is actually 2 years. Also, it depends on the criteria the adoptive parents are asking for, ie; caucasian only, no medical issues, no premies, whatever, there are a ton of things to consider when it comes to an average adoption waiting time.
In any case, I do whole heartedly agree with your last statement. I am a waiting parent now, and have been waiting since April of 2006 for my baby. Unfortunately, most of the time parents are ashamed, and want a quick fix. They do not think "through" the issue enough to know that there is another option/adoption. In reality, our kids are having sex earlier and earlier, and the teen pregnancy issue is getting worse and worse.
As adoption advocates, we need to talk about adoption with people. I know that I have learned a great deal about adoption over the past 2 1/2 years that I never even imagined.
Waiting for all of us as adoptive parents is the most difficult thing, but also, it is extremely difficult for a mother, (no matter what age), to place her child up for adoption.
2007-02-27 02:09:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay this may be a terrible thing to say but has anyone ever thought that if a person cannot have children then maybe they are not suppose to? or that men should be the ones who have to deal with birth control? or that maybe some woman make a stupid and poor choice but do not have 9 months of there life to waste...or that some women could not handle carrying that baby for 9 months? yes you say over half of these women who have abortions are healthy but does that include mental health? Being pregnant is mentally draining especially if you have to do it alone and for what to give the baby way to someone you do not even know? maybe for some people it is just not worth it!
2007-02-27 16:57:19 · answer #3 · answered by n&z-mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not that there are no babies to adopt it is because the standards in America are to high. I can show you where thousands upon thousands of babies sit in foster homes. Unfortunately the states have a child ring monopoly going on as well. They get alot of money per quarter for displaced children,therefore, it is not to the states advantage to adopt children out but instead keep them tied up in the bureaucratic red tape. it is a hard cold truth but yes there are many abortions and only a very small % are for legitimate causes. another issue to is people only want newborn children when there are many other children that need a home as well.
2007-02-24 07:40:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your statistics are wrong. The number of abortions surpasses the number of families who want to adopt (even with the waiting list) by 10 times. The number of children in foster care at any point surpasses 250,000. The waiting list is so long either because people want "a blue-eyed blond infant", and because adoption laws are so stringent and adoption is so expensive.
Get your numbers straight before you jump into conclusions.
2007-02-25 05:30:10 · answer #5 · answered by jimbell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So its MY responsibity to see to it that everyone who WANTS a baby should get one? in all your fact finding did you come across this little nugget ...92% of people who WANT a baby...will HAVE a baby...yes, sometimes there are fertility issues that make it difficult for some ...impossible for a small percentage...and I dont see why i should vest myself in a pregnancy...not have wine with dinner, not take my husband out for sushi, not see my in-laws who smoke....etc..etc... go through labor and recovery ...not to mention cope with hundreds of strangers comments about my lovely belly to make people i dont know happy? And what makes you so sure that beacuse they are on an adoption waiting list for 7 years that they will be good parents? It is not selfish of me to NOT volunteer my body for about a year of my life for someone else. Do you routinely give blood? are you a registered bone marrow donor? why do you still have two working kidneys while there are thousands who are on a waiting list for ONE healthy one?
2007-02-24 14:33:43 · answer #6 · answered by motherhendoulas 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try giving birth then talk its not that easy bud children are an expense on the life of the mother that is alot of cases she is not able to handle having been on both sides of the fence i will say this i don't regret my choices i have made my kid is an honor student in college and all thru high school but i like the fact that i have a choice i could picture all the suicides that come with having to bear a child that the FATHER does not want anything to do with how about this we have birth control for men that includes blocking the sperm in the first place so that until the men want to be fathers they cant knock you up in the first place that would be great no more patches or pills nor pain full iud's no more abortions just men unclasping their sperm sac's when the are mature enough to act like men and step up to the plate to responsibly and respectfully want to reproduce !
2007-02-24 07:45:17 · answer #7 · answered by lilladyt34 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I agree. If they didn't want to get pregnant, they should've done what it takes to prevent it, like not having unprotected sex. The only sure-fire way to prevent pregnancy is to not have sex. If they're "mature" enough to do it, then they should own up to it instead of killing the innocent life that didn't even ask to be created. If an "oops" happens, then I say give it up for adoption, or raise it yourself.
2007-02-24 07:31:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
It's an option that can be considered, yes. However, I wonder if you have considered what it would be like to carry a baby and then give it away? What long-term trauma it puts on the birth mother?
And actually, it's more like 55% Caucasian. And the state that has the most abortions? Texas.
2007-02-24 07:37:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
Some people don't want to go through labor, so they get abortions.
2007-02-24 10:04:30 · answer #10 · answered by miss2010 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you 100%.
2007-02-24 08:00:51 · answer #11 · answered by Brittany M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋