How do I approaching asking whether or not the guy i'm dating wants to be exclusive?

Question

I've been dating this guy for a month and a half. (We are in our mid-twenties.) We've progressed from once a week dates to twice a week dates and from talking on the phone a couple times a week to talking every day. We usually hang out every Saturday. I'd like to ask him whether or not he wants to be exclusive. We have not had sex yet, but we're approaching that stage, however, I need to know that we're exclusive before I have sex with him. I don't want to scare him and I don't want him to agree to it just to have sex. Is it too soon to ask? Do you have any suggestions as to how to approach the subject without freaking him out? I don't want to scare him. If he's not ready for an exclusive relationship that's fine, i just want to know.

Answer 1

WAIT!
That's the answer, trust me on this one. There is no bigger turn off for guy than having some chick whose company he treasures blowing in with a northeasterly wind when his thoughts were not even there yet.
You don't have to have sex with him until you get the commitment but the best thing to do is to wait until he asks.
Believe it or not, old values still work. Men enjoy the thrill of the chase. I would strongly recommend waiting. He's seeing you on a regular basis which indicates that he thinks you're special. He's making himself available to you and probably pretty darn glad you're available to him, also.
Don't ruin what could be a good thing by putting the cart before the horse. Slow and easy wins the engagement ring.
(I figure that somewhere down the road, you might just like a carat or so.)
Anxiety is not a good thing. Slow down, breathe, enjoy the attention.
Ask the wrong question in the wrong way and he could go heading for the hills.

Answer 2

I was recently in a situation like yours. We had been dating 4 months and I was interested in the next level. Rather than ask him what he was feeling, I requested a verbal definition of what we had and I told him that I had cleared my calander to date him and get to know him. I didn't receive a clear answer from him and so knew at the point he wasnt ready. I am back to dating others and thats ok. He and I continue to date and thats ok too as I enjoy his company.
I understand very much that you want to know what direction the relationship is taking......this is very important for us gals.

Answer 3

I had a gf once come out and tell me that she was getting asked out a lot and wanted to know if she should date them or not. I told her I would prefer her to not date them and therefore we were exclusive.

Answer 4

You need to wait till marriage to have sex... not when it's just exclusive.

If you become pregnant, you can handle it better when you're married.
You'll have that person beside you who promised to always be by your side.
It won't be some random guy or some guy who you THOUGHT loved you.

Sex makes many things complicated in an unmarried relationship.
It takes two very mature people.
You do not want to get yourself lost in everything that comes with sex.
Most people nowadays tend to just BASE their relationship on sex.

I am a virgin. I have a boyfriend of a year that I am completely in love with. We talk about marriage and how I want to wait till our wedding day to have sex. He truly does love me... he respects me. That's when you KNOW you have a great guy. That's when you KNOW he's in love with you... when he has absolutely no problem in waiting. Actions speak louder than words...

Answer 5

I agree with the first answer, but if you are not into that and don't think you can handle it, tell him you are not seeing anyone else and see what he says...