What is the best way to put a stop to a 5 year old lying?

Question

This is not normal for him..It just started 2 weeks ago...

Answer 1

We will start to treat EVERYTHING the child says like a lie for a day or two afterward, and show them how they lost our trust, how important it is to have that trust. Big sister smacked you? Sorry, I don't believe you. (I would discipline the sibling in private if it *was* true, though.) They get the point pretty quickly. It's no fun to be thought a liar every time you open your mouth, especially when you're telling the truth and it's important to you.

In a couple of instances, I have played a trick on the child, to teach them how it felt to be lied to. I started talking about some fun activity we were all going to do, how much fun we were going to have (maybe Chuck E. Cheese or something we don't do often). Then at the end of the day when the time came, "Oh, sorry, I was just lying." Then talk about how it made them feel, and explain that this is what others feel like when lied to.

This worked for our family. Good luck with yours!

Answer 2

What are the lies approximately? At this age they nonetheless have a tough time distinguishing between certainty and fantasy, additionally in the event that they believe difficult sufficient that something take place they actually don't understand that it in no way take place. study her thoughts approximately honesty (Bearenstien bears, Little critter, Robert Munsch, aesop) and reward for the truthful thinsg she does, make that your concentration, no longer the lieing. Have a communique along with her and tell her that's alright to pretend yet she has to make valuable others be attentive to that she is pretending. tell her that lies make people unhappy and that they harm their emotions, ask her to offer you a time whilst her emotions have been harm and if she enjoyed that feeling, this way she will relate what you're saying to the sensation she is inflicting. Is she lieing to get out of percieved hassle or a foul act she performed? If she is, then she is familiar with that there are effects to her movements and that she performed something undesirable, make valuable she is conscious that as quickly as she lies she will continually be in greater hassle than if she basically admitted to the offending behaviour, and you will continually be attentive to if she is lieing.

Answer 3

Actually small children very often will make up "stories" or emblish, they don't understand the concept of truth or lie, they really don't know the difference between a "story" and the truth, don't mom and dad read bedtime stories to them? Those are 'lies". Even "the boy who cried wolf" can be considered a lie since it never happened, it's not the truth. How I handled it was in the evenings, when my daughter was getting ready for bed I would have her tell me the story about her day. Some were very interesting and I wish I would have either recorded them or written them down because they would make one hell of a children's book...

Answer 4

This is the age when children realize they can manipulate the truth to control others.

Have a talk with him about how important the truth is. Maybe even get a kid's book about it.

Then, leave it alone. If he makes white lies, remind him that fibbing isn't ok. If they're serious lies, he needs punishment to fit the crime. For example, if he broke something and lied and said something else happened, he needs to write you an apology letter, do x amount of chores, earn cash, then go spend the cash on a new item to replace the one that was broken. An important step is actually earning/holding the cash then having to part with it.

Answer 5

He has just "discovered" lying. Ask him about it and find out what he thinks it will do for him. Then explain how while it may pay off in the short term, in the long term he won't be believed and trusted, etc. Use examples. Turn it around and talk about how he would feel if someone lied to him. Try not to scold him about it until he understands why it is wrong.

Answer 6

I had the same problem with my son a few years ago (he was six).

He was caught in a lie and we called him on it. He still denied it. We tried to talk to him, told him the story about the boy who cried wolf. Still continued to lie.

SO...

We took away all his stuff and I mean all of it. (he had been warned). He had to earn back his stuff by NOT telling lies. It's pretty harsh, but up until that point he was a good kid, but enough was enough. It took him about two weeks of good behavior before all his things were returned.

He learned a valuable lesson and hasn't lied since.

Answer 7

I have a five year old who sometimes lies to his father. Notice how I said to his father? He doesn't lie to me. And I know why. First of all I should add that I am a preschool teacher and for now a stay home mom with three children under six. I hold a teacher cridential and currently stay up to date with current child development knowledge. I currently attended a seminar with Dr. Becky A. Baily. Author of Theres got to be a better way and Conscious Discipline. She has done research on the brain and what happens when children, "get in trouble" by parents or teachers using negative techniques like "time out", yelling , threates ( if you do it again I will...take favorite toy away, tv time, playtime etc.). She says that when teachers or parents use these discipline techniques it definetly stops the undesirable behavior which is a quick fix for a while untill they learn to get sneeky and hide things or get away with it ( their goal is to not to get caught) instead of learning that what they did was not ok and what effect it had on the other person or object ...they are learning to lie. When children get in trouble or punished, we are unconciously teaching them to lie. This makes sense to me. From my own experience I can remember lieing to my mother when I was little in order not to get in trouble. Even though getting in trouble for me was seeing my mom get mad at me or yelling and lecturing. Even now I sometimes stretch the truth in order not to hear it from my husband. Do you see what I mean? Your child might be lieing because he doesn't want to get in trouble and not because he is "being bad" sinning or wrong as some people would say. I don't think kids are bad or wrong. I think as part of a childs development or process, (depending on childs age and stage) children misbehave in order to learn what to do and thats where you come in and guide him positively through problem solving, natrual consequences and or logical consequences which focuses more on "what he could have done differently" versus doing things to him (punishment). Some parents and teachers are so focused on punishments and rewards in order to get a desired behavioral outcome that they forget about the process which is more important and actually teaches the child what to do instead of what not to do. When you tell a child what to do they are "learning" versus punishing them and making them wrong and getting them in trouble only tells them they are bad, wrong and not good which may lead to low self esteem or insecuity. Going back to my husband and I, my husband is still learning to not get angry at our son and pinish him by sending him to his room etc... Its hard for him to change because he was raised a different way. He is also realizing that our son tends to hide the truth from him. We are trying a different way of guidence which is positive discipline.

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Answer 8

well i have a niece whos five and sometimes she lies . its a phase but you should talk to him about it! children dont lie on purpose they think its funny and when you laugh he will continue if you put your foot down on it i think he will stop!

Answer 9

thatz complicated maybe u should negotiate with that 5 year old.