if you caught your daughter engaged in sex what would you do?

Answer 1

Depends on how she was. If she's grown I would just be embarassed. But if she's living in my home and I caught her I would be upset and drag her out of bed and throw him out. Then put her on b/c.

Answer 2

If i had a daughter and caught her having sex (really depending on her age) i would most likely first make the boy leave and then i would take her straight to the doctor and have her put on birth control.
I can't say too much for i had sex when i was 16 but i think that is the usual age when girls start having sex but if she was younger than that i believe she would be having a boot up her ***.

Answer 3

I would have probably walked in so I'd calmly tell her to get dressed and come to my room [or where ever I was going to be] to have a talk. If I "caught" her she'd probably not be on birth control so that would be our first step. Then I'd talk to her again [because I would have already talked to her many times before] about sex. I'd ask her why she didn't come to me first because obviously my feelings would be hurt that she didn't trust me enough and then I'd work on becoming a better parent. Of course I'd be disappointed at first but there does come a time where you have to let go and that doesn't mean allowing your daughter to have sex in your home--it just means keeping communication lines open but also letting her acknowledge that it's far safer to remain abstinent. Of course this is if my daughter was still in my home. If she is not in my home then she can do whatever she wants.

Answer 4

First of all, it depends on her age and marital status.
If she were of age, and married, I would quickly excuse myself and apologize profusely, as soon as feasibly possible.

If she were underage, under my roof, or unmarried, I would do the following:
Send the guy on his way, as quickly as possible, then
1) have a long talk with her, and make certain she remembers what her father and I have taught her about sex, and what it is designed for;
2) make certain that if she has many fewer opportunities for this to happen, not in a punitive way, but protectively; and
3) make certain that if she plans to continue being sexually active outside of marriage, despite what her parents believe is best for her and her future happiness, that she has protection against pregnancy and STDs
4) talk to the young man's parents about what has happened.

Answer 5

My philosophy, though considered cruel, has always been if they are adult enough to do some adult things, they are adult enough to do ALL adult things.

Make her get a job, pay rent. If you gave her a car, take it back and make her buy one of her own. Make her pay for her own gas, insurance, cell phone, clothes, everything. Even food.

Teenagers rarely pay attention to lectures. Grounding does no good because they just drive you crazy till you order them out of the house.

By making her face reality, and forcing her to do everything for herself as an adult would, perhaps she will come to the realization that she is not yet an adult, and does not need to be doing things adults do just yet.

Gas, Electric, Insurance, Car, Gasoline, Laundry, Water Bill, all of that.

If there are 5 rooms in the house, make her pay 1/5th of the electric bill. If there are 4 people in the house, 1/4 of the water bill. Divide it up fairly, as if she had roommates or something. Teach her what adulthood is REALLY about.

Answer 6

to avoid an embarassing situation between my daughter and her male partner,II would allow them to finish their tryst,then when things calm down I would have a talk with mty daughter and try to explainm to her that having sex in our house is not permitted,especially unprotected sex, then I would tell her of the dangers of sexually transmitted diseases . I would make sure these talks are long,you want them to penetrate her brain,she may not like this but its for her own good . the rest is up to her.I hope Ive given you the right information,I know,my mother belongs to the old school and I know that whatever she told me then still is with me now. good luck! rubberstampr

Answer 7

It would depend on her age & maturity level. If she was older than 15 and somewhat mature, I would take her to the doctor and get her on the pill, and also have the doctor give her an in-dept, detailed account of sexually transmitted diseases and all that can accompany them. I'd rather have her safe from unwanted pregnancy if she's going to fool around.

Answer 8

Hopefully my daughter would be having sex in her bedroom with the door closed so there would be no reason for me to catch her...beside MY daughter is 21 years old...an adult. If I 'caught' her having sex I would tell her to take it to her bedroom and shut the door.

Answer 9

I would sit comfortable down, and say "Well....carry on." What would they do then? To just shut the door, or throw a fit, isn't going to fix anything...but if I acted like I was just going to sit down and stay for awhile..it would put them in a very uncomfortable postition.

Answer 10

Her life as she knew it would be over until her 18th birthday. Actually I would step aside, and let her father take over. To say the least, she won't be having any more sex until she becomes an adult. That would most likely mean, one of us, would be attached to her hip until then.