My boyfriend and I had a mutual break up about a month ago. I still love him but he said half of him loved me and half of him just wanted to be friends. So I was like fine, lets break up then. I wasn't going to be in a relationship where I wasn't wanted. Well now it's been a month and a half and he is avoiding me. He won't talk or look at me. We have mutual friends and when ever I'm hanging out with them he still won't talk to me even when I try to talk to him. So I figure, whatever, he dosn't want to be my friend. But why? Why can't you be friends with an ex? It's easy for me to try and be friends with him why can't he be friendly(he dosn't actually have to be my friend) towards me?
2007-02-24 06:40:26 · 6 answers · asked by Simple Love 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, can't beleive I am answering this question. I am almost 50 and am in a relationship (3 yrs. now), and my partner is 8 years younger than me. She is friends with a couple of her ex's, and talks to someone she was going to meet but never did.
I look at it this way, if she ever thinks she has found someone better than me, then,what will be, will be, we have beat that dead horse, to death. We love each other and are in love, and have a great thing going. I have given up trying to control that situation, I am here to say that I AM the BEST thing she has ever had or will have....Im soooo confident, and thats what you need to be, is confident that he will come around, and get over it.
2007-02-24 07:28:26 · answer #1 · answered by Meg V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exes should be left as part of the past. Remaining friends never really works. What happens when he finds a new girlfriend? What happens when you are with your mutual friends and he meets a girl he'd like to get to know a little better, and there you are trying to monopolize his time? I think it's easier for you to be friendly, because as you say, you still love him. You don't want to let him out of your life. He, however, is ready to move on. Let him, and do the same.
Don't lose your friends, but try not to hang out with them all at the same time he does.
As hard as it is, that's the way thinks go when you break up.
2007-02-24 14:48:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am friends with most of my exes. What it takes is time. What has worked for me is 3 months of no contact whatsoever. After that amount of time I get in touch with them or they get in touch with me or we end up hanging out with mutual friends and everything seems okay. There are a lot of unresolved feelings right now. You both need time to get over the end of the relationship. Once you've had time to move on and get over each other then you can be friends. You're still in love with him so it's dangerous right now to try the friendship thing. You'll end up getting hurt. Take some time. Eventually you two will be comfortable around each other.
2007-02-24 15:03:18 · answer #3 · answered by katiebeth 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You CAN be friends with an ex.
I'm friends with both of mine. The relationships didn't end horribly wrong. It was a nice break-up. And we got along when we were together. We had a lot in common. It doesn't mean we don't have anything in common anymore since we are broken up. You can still be friends with them!!! It's only weird if you make it weird.
2007-02-24 14:44:51 · answer #4 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no ive been out with loads of boys and still stayed friends with them
2007-02-24 14:43:43 · answer #5 · answered by Fabo Chikk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget it friendship after a relation doesn't exist..
don't waste your time , life is short.. find another one
2007-02-24 14:53:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋