It get so frustrating because i am a trustworthy person! When i say you can trust me, i have never done anything to break your trust, he says "You have done some stupid things......like that timeeee..." (out with my girlfriends and i get a little loud and crazy-NEVER CHEATED AND RARELY EVEN GO OUT WITH MY GIRLS). I just sit there and listen then i say "okay i wont do anything stupid tonight". He HATES it when i go out with my friends and always asks me who i talked to and what i did. And then when i tell him, he doesnt believe me. I am lost for words and dont know what to do. im 17 he is 18 and we have been together for 2 years.
2007-02-24 06:38:29 · 10 answers · asked by Ash 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are soo young and you already have a controlling guy. There are so many reasons why your relationship with him is soo wrong.
To be really upfront and honest with you. Get rid of him, and fast.
The whole idea about being young and old for that matter is have fun! Don’t let any guy tell you when, where and who you can hang out with. If you want to go out with your girls and get crazy, get retarded.. have fun. Don’t sit there like a bump on a log. Ever! EVER! understand!
Apparently the guy has some emotional issues such as insecurity and trust and at such a young age. His behavior is not acceptable and should not be tolerated.
One thing he has to understand
- you had friends before him
- you had a life before him
- its not all about him.
If you want to go hang out with your girls. It’s okay. You can and it doesn’t mean you’re going to cheat on him. SO go out and have fun. . If he doesn’t like it to bad.
**My suggestion is:
You’re young. You have a lot of life to live. Get rid of him. At 18 he is already controlling you. How will it be when you turn 20 something?
* It will get worse, guaranteed*
He has issues and baggage. You’re 17 and don’t need that kind of garage.
Talk to your mom and dad about it.
2007-02-24 07:03:23 · answer #1 · answered by dirtmojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has trust issues... He thinks that you are going to go with a different person... he is afraid of losing you and what you guys have... you might want to talk to him and ask him what in the world is going on because not many guys are that insecure... talk to him about it and give your side about it... if he loves you then he will tell you things and you will be able to talk about it... 2 years is a long time... and here is another thing... has he been having trust issues the whole time that you have been together... and if he hasn't then you might want to see where it started... try to find a general area of things... and if he has been acting like this the whole time... you might want to see what had happened in the past that turned him this way if you don't already know... GOOD LUCK!
2007-02-24 06:46:11 · answer #2 · answered by Need to know 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your man has jealousy issues. Not to mention he seems insecure about himself. You need to really sit him down and talk to him. Tell him how much you care and how you would never hurt him. Tell him that it hurts you to have him think that you are untrustworthy when that is the farthest thing from the truth. You need to have open communication. So tell him when ever he feels bothered or threatened that he can talk to you about it but for him to not do it in an incriminating way cause that is not fair on you. I mean ask him why he feels insecure as well. Maybe he has a past where girls used to cheat on him or maybe he doesn't feel worthy of you and thinks one day you will think that too. The point is if you love him then talk to him and try to work it out. Good luck!
2007-02-24 06:46:03 · answer #3 · answered by poetryprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie he cares about you. He loves you SO much that he doesnt want to loose you to anyone. Take it in as a compliment because it means he is still in love wit you. If it bothers you just take him aside and say "Hun we've been together for 2 years, i love you and you love me, but this relationship cant grow or go any further without trust." Trust is the key to any relationship.
2007-02-24 06:44:41 · answer #4 · answered by twentyalready?! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has trust issues because he is the one who's hiding something. Call him on it. If he's not doing something wrong now then he did something wrong before. This is a way for him to live with the Guilt. I know for a fact i am right. Sorry.
2007-02-24 06:43:23 · answer #5 · answered by W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have him go with you he may feel left out. Or dump the control freak. I had that problem with my ex and the reason he was so untrusting was because he was the one cheating. Be careful girl guys a tricky.
2007-02-24 06:43:58 · answer #6 · answered by chunkysmom3502 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps you give off a defensive feeling to his questions instead of giving him a positive feeling. the 'defensive' thing might feed his insecurities. he's somewhat insecure by a past event that he hasnt moved from. talk about the past event in a confident manner...not in a defensive one. ask him how he would like you to answer all of his future insecure inquiries. does giving him every minute by minute detail some feeling of security? doubtful.
keeping a positive attitude instead of a defensive one might help.
good luck peace
2007-02-24 06:46:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look down the road
THAT is the future you have to look forward to
is that what you want?
(he will never change and neither will you)
when you look out into the future do see ease, peace, happiness and play and fun with this person? or do you see something else?
2007-02-24 06:41:05 · answer #8 · answered by lowroad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I notice you only refer to him as "he". I guess this is a boyfriend. Sounds like you've been together 2 years tooooooo long. Drop him, be yourself and enjoy life.
2007-02-24 06:45:10 · answer #9 · answered by janice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has low self-esteem issues and needs to work those out.
2007-02-24 06:41:28 · answer #10 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋