My best friend and I are, obviously, very close, although we don't get the time to call each other every single day. Yet, we try to keep in touch and make it a point to call at least once in three weeks, and we try to talk about what the other missed and, basically, keep each other updated on the latest developments in our lives. We are 22 years old. Since men and marriage plans are becoming important issues for us now, we talk about it all the time. I tell her about any new guy I've met, and even about the guys that folks are trying to fix me up with (we are Asians, so arranged marriages are the order for us), and she tells me the same. However, I admit that I do a lot of the talking regarding this matter, although it's not that apparent, since we talk and talk and analyse things together and have a lot of fun doing it.
Today she tells me that her marriage is ALMOST fixed. They have found a match for her. She met the guy 3 months ago. I knew nothing until today. I'm hurt.
2007-02-24 06:34:23 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Apparently, her mother had told her to keep quiet about it until it's finalised. But, I'm her BEST FRIEND. She knows she can trust me. Plus we're 23. Did she have to listen to her mother about this matter?
We met at her place today, but she told me this only on the phone once I got back home. I was shocked and hurt. She said it so calmly, and I tried to sound as normal as possible. I am happy for her, but somehow I just don't feel right
2007-02-24 06:35:20 · update #1
I think you are justified in feeling hurt especially since both of you are so close but in spite this fact her mother told her not to tell you and maybe,( it is likely), her mother was trying to keep things in the family because she did not want to jinx the marriage if it happened. She could have been quite hopeful but just in case it didn't work out she didn't want her daughter to feel hurt, i do not think she intended to hurt you. You and your best friend are pretty close so i hope you two can work on this crossroads and become friends again. by the way you should tell your friend how you are feeling and i have to half agree that your friend has a right to not tell you everything in her life, even though it seems like you tell her evrything i am sure you sometimes leave out some details when you feel like. Best of Luck.
2007-02-24 06:45:59 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah_crazyangel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw, don't worry about it. She didn't intend to slight you. But if she gets married while you remain single, you can expect less sharing than there is now. Hubby will become her best friend, most likely, and that is good.
2007-02-24 06:39:25 · answer #2 · answered by Husker41 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She repected her mother and didn't tell you until it was finalized. It's nothing personal aggainst you, she just did what her mother said to do. Your never to old to listen to your mother.
2007-02-24 06:41:17 · answer #3 · answered by huhyftcgbjhu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
long distance relationships dont work
2007-02-24 06:37:07 · answer #4 · answered by wassup 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I DONT KNOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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2007-02-24 07:30:55 · answer #5 · answered by neff8684 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋